What is Sex Work?
Information
Sex work is when someone provides sexual services to another person in exchange for something of value.
That "something of value" isn't always just money. It can also be:
💰Money:
This is the most common form of payment.
💊 Drugs:
Clients can offer or receive drugs in exchange for sex.
🏠 Accommodation (a place to stay):
Someone might offer a room or a place to live in return for sexual services.
🚌✈️ Travel:
Clients can offer to pay for travel expenses eg bus ticket, train fare, or a holiday/trip in exchange for sexual services.
🍎👕 Other things:
It could be things like food, clothes, or other goods or favors.
Basically, if someone is giving sexual services and getting something back for it, that's sex work. It's a way some people earn what they need or want.
Basic Sex Work Laws & Information
🔞 Sex Worker must:
Must be 18 years old or over. In some places the legal age is 21 to do sex work.
Wear a condom for Oral, Anal and Vaginal sex. Passing an STI/HIV on is a crime in most countries
🔞 Under 18?
It is not sex work is exploitation.
Contact the police with someone you trust.
Keep messages & evidence
You will not be in trouble - your clients might be.
🔞 Clients must be aged 18+
Local Laws:
Every country, city or town will have different laws sex workers must follow.
Laws can be used to help back up your statements and add extra protection if something goes wrong.
Male Sex Work Safety Information
STI|STD|Virus Risk Reduction Information
Working with Caregivers/Helpers
The Client Decides:
A caregiver can help explain things, but they cannot say "yes" for the client.
Only the client can say "yes" for their own body.
Hands Off:
If a client needs help getting into the room or onto the bed, let the helper do it.
Do not lift the client yourself. This protects you if they get a bruise or a fall.
Your Power:
You are the boss of your body. You can say "No" and end the session at any time.
Information about Coercion into Sex Work Industry:
Pressure doesn't look like a punch; it looks like "favours" or "guilt." If you feel you have to do sex work to survive or keep someone happy, that is not a choice.
Signs of Guilt-Tripping
It is not a free choice if they say:
"If you loved me, you’d do this for us."
"I pay for everything, so you owe me this."
"I’ve done so much for you; it’s your turn to help."
"Don't be selfish; we need the money."
Signs of Threats
It is not a free choice if they threaten to:
Hurt you or someone you care about.
Kick you out of the house.
Take your money or your phone.
Tell your family, friends, or boss your secrets.
Report you to the police or immigration.
🚩 Other Red Flags for Men
Isolation: They try to stop you from seeing your mates or your family.
Control: They handle all the bookings and take a "cut" of your money.
Shaming: They tell you that "no one else will want you" or "you’re lucky to have this."
The "Man Up" Trap: They tell you that because you are a man, you should "just get on with it" and stop complaining.
Support and Forced/Coercion? Information
Support Information
If a friend is thinking about sex work, or is already doing it, being a "good mate" means being a solid backup, not a judge.
Don't judge: Let him talk without acting shocked or disappointed.
Just listen: He might just need to vent. You don't always have to "fix" it.
Ask why: Try to understand if he's doing it for extra cash, out of curiosity, or because he’s in a tight spot.
Be Honest, Not Bossy
Share the facts: Talk about the risks (safety, health, and the law) as well as the money.
Speak up if you're worried: It’s okay to say, "I’m worried about your safety," as long as you aren't shouting at him.
Keep his secrets: Don't tell other mates or family. He needs to know he can trust you.
Check-ins: Offer to be the person he texts to say "I’m safe" after a booking.
Healthcare: Offer to go with him to the sexual health clinic if he's nervous.
Support groups: Help him find websites or groups specifically for sex workers.
Be a fallback: Let him know that if he wants to quit, you’ll help him find a different way to make money.
It’s his life: At the end of the day, he’s an adult. He makes the final call.
Stay in his corner: Even if you don't like the job or worried, make sure he knows you're still his mate.
"I'm here": Tell him clearly: "I might not love the idea, but I’ve got your back no matter what."
In the sex industry, your health is your wealth.
✅ Get a Full Sexual Health Screen
✅ Be Honest: Tell the nurse/Doctor you are doing sex work. They will give you a deeper, more helpful check-up.
✅ Get the Swabs:
get throat and
anal swabs.
✅ Ask about availability of:
PEP
PrEP
Doxy-PEP
✅ Get STI/STD Vaccines:
Ask for vaccines for:
Hepatitis B,
HPV
Hepatitis A.
The "Snapshot" Rule
A clean test is just a snapshot:
Shows you were healthy on the day of the test.
Doesn't show STI/HIV when caught within weeks.
No STI/HIV? Still Use a Condom:
Even if your latest test is clear, never work without a condom.
It can take up to 3 months for a full positive HIV result.
Use condoms for oral, vaginal, and anal sex. No exceptions.
The Lube
Using lube can reduce your risk of getting an STI or HIV when used correctly. It stops your skin from tearing and keeps the condom from breaking.
1. Put a Small Drop Inside
Put only one small drop of lube inside the tip of the condom before you roll it on.
This keeps your skin from getting sore, but ensures the condom stays tight and doesn't slide off.
2. Put the Rest on the Outside
Put most of your water-based lube on the outside of the condom or on your client.
This stops the friction that causes skin tears and HIV risks.
⚠️ Important Information
Got an STI/Signs? Stop Working:
Do not see clients until a doctor gives you the 100% all-clear.
Create a Reminder:
Set a recurring alarm on your phone for every 3 months. E.g. "Maintenance Day
Protect Your Health Record:
In many places, passing on an infection is a crime. Having a history of clean tests and using condoms may help protects you legally. Sex workers are often discriminated against globally.
No Stupid Questions:
If you see a bump, a rash, or anything weird "down there," get it checked immediately.
How to put Condom
Uncut/Foreskin
How to put on a Condom on Tight Foreskins| Phimosis
How to put on a Condom on a Cut | Circumcised Penis
⚠️ Store in a cool dry place for no Damage: Make sure the package isn't damaged.
👍 Internal condoms are latex free.
❌ No Double Condoms. Don't use an internal and external condom together.
1. Prep
Check:
Check the the date, so it isn't expired
The packet is not damaged and had air in it.
Open:
Use your Lube free fingers.
Do not use teeth
Do not use scissors.
2. The Setup
Remove the inner ring:
Squeeze the loose ring inside and pull it out, you do not need it for anal sex.
Lube:
Add plenty of water-based or silicone lube to the inside of the condom
the outside of the condom
3. Insertion
Nail Check:
Make sure the finger you use to push the condom in has a short, smooth nail to avoid internal scratches.
Push in:
Use your finger to push the closed end of the condom into the anus.
Outer Ring:
The large, open ring must stay outside the body. It should lay flat against the skin.
4. During Sex
Guide it in:
Use your hand to guide the penis or toy into the centre of the condom.
Stop if it slips:
If the penis goes between the condom and the skin, or if the outer ring is pushed inside, stop and fix it.
5. Removal & Disposal
Twist:
Twist the outer ring to keep the fluid inside.
Pull:
Gently pull the condom out.
Bin it:
Wrap it in tissue and put it in the bin. Never reuse it.
Flavoured Condoms Information
Are designed specifically for oral sex/blowjobs
They contain sugars or sweeteners to make them taste better.
Do not put on with your mouth
❌ Never use flavoured condoms for anal or vaginal sex.
The sugars can cause yeast infections (thrush) or mess with the natural pH balance.
Some people are sensitive to the flavouring agents, which can cause itching or a rash.
Dental Dams
Oral-anal contact/Rimming or
Oral Vaginal going down/eating out/cunnilingus
Barrier Against:
Bodily Fluids poo/shit/ feces, pre-cum, vaginal fluids, blood) that can carry STIs and bacteria.
Proper Coverage:
When used correctly, a dental dam should fully cover the vulva or anus, providing a protective layer during oral contact.
DIY from Condoms:
A dental dam can be made by carefully cutting off the tip and base of a non-lubricated condom and then slicing it lengthwise to create a flat sheet of latex.
Water & Silicon Lube Basic Safety Information
14 Places To Get Condoms from
🏥 Sexual Health Clinics (often free)
🫂 Sex Worker Organisations (often free)
⚕️ Public Health Departments/Units (may be free)
💉 Needle Exchange Programs (may be free)
🎓 Student Health Services (often free for students)
💊 Pharmacies 🛒
🏪 Supermarkets/Grocery Stores Convenience Stores
🌐 Online Retailers
👶 Family Planning Clinics
🧑🤝🧑 Youth Centres (may be free)
🏘️ Community Centres (may occasionally have free supplies)
🚻 Vending Machines (in some public restrooms or entertainment venues)
🏨 Hotels (may sell them, sometimes in vending machines or upon request)
🔞 Sex Shops
The 3 Stages
Money laundering usually follows a three-step process to hide the "dirty" origin of the cash.
Placement: This is the riskiest stage. The "dirty" cash is physically placed into a legitimate business or bank account.
Example: A client asks you to accept a massive cash payment far above your usual rate.
Layering: The money is moved around through many different transactions to make it hard for the police to track.
Example: A client pays you via an app, then asks you to "refund" it to a different person or account, or asks you to buy gift cards or crypto for them.
Integration: The money is now "clean." It appears as legitimate income (like a payment for a service) and can be spent by the criminal without raising red flags.
🚩 Red Flags: How to Spot a "Favour"
If a client asks for a "favour" regarding payment, it is often a trap. Watch out for:
Overpayments: They "accidentally" pay you £5,000 instead of £500 and ask you to send the difference back to a "friend's" account.
Third-Party Payments: Someone else pays for the client's service, or the client asks you to receive money on behalf of someone else.
Requesting Cash Exchanges: They ask you to take their cash and send them a bank transfer or buy something for them online.
Vague Business Advice: They offer to "invest" in your business or help you "set up a company" that you don't actually need.
⚖️ The Legal Risk
In the UK and many other countries, "Money Laundering" isn't just about the person who committed the original crime. You can be charged with:
Assisting: Helping a criminal hide their money.
Possession: Simply holding or "laundering" money that you suspect came from a crime.
Failure to Disclose: If you are a professional and you suspect money laundering but don't report it, you could be held legally responsible.
Appointment |
Booking Times Info
Location/Invite:
Where are you going to do your sex work.
In Calls| Your Place
Location chosen by the sex worker, Your home, a shared location by other sex workers.
Brothels - a house/apartment where multiple males work from.
Out Calls | Travel
Location chosen by the client, the worker travels to hotel, home etc of client.
Always know where you are and have multiple ways to get out.
Don't rely on the money from the job for your taxi or public transport.
Freelance/Street Work
Going to bars or legal areas frequented by clients. The most risky. This can be the most dangerous type of sex work.
High Risk
A common misconception is that by charging less you will get more clients - this very rarely true. There will always be quiet days/nights - this doesn't mean you have to drop your rates.
Do not charge for the action - ie oral sex/blow job. This can last at along longer and isn't cost effective.
The amount you charge should include the following.
Cost of supplies (condoms, lube, sex toys)
Venue hire: cost of the room
Transport: usually a taxi is the preferred method.
Set up time: Making sure everything is clean and disinfected
Clean up time: cleaning sheets, lube bottle, disinfecting surfaces and items.
Extra's: Fisting, role play, costumes, cumming/ejaculation etc
Beverages offered: soda, wine, beer etc.
Medication/Check ups: The cost of PrEP and getting a STI/STD check up.
Personal worth - charge what you are worth - what will make it worth it to you.
Tax - The amount of tax you have to pay from total amount.
Lower prices does not mean more clients
Discounts:
Some people can become hard/erect without help, others need something to help them get an erection/hard.
Talk to a medical professional before taking any dodgy blue pill a client, sex worker or drug dealer offers you.
It's okay not get an erection. Not every client can make it happen.
If this happens;
Remember you make the rules, e.g.:
If your clothes are off and you have tried a client should still pay you.
It's unlikely they will see you again - that's okay.
If you find yourself getting erect with clients often then it may be a good time to consider whether you should continue doing sex work.
🚩 Clients that ask for a discount are a BIG red flag. Trust your gut.
⚠️ This is for informational use only.
3 Genders you can work with:
Male to Male Sex Work
Male to Female
Male to Trans | Gender Fluid
Male to Non-Binary
Definitions of other options:
Gay for Pay:
Males who might not think of themselves as gay or bisexual in their personal lives, but they have sex with male clients for money. It's like a job.
Companion (More Than Just Sex) :
Some male sex workers can offer more than just sex .
They might provide companionship, go out for dinner, theatre, Opera, ballet etc. As well as have conversations, and offer emotional support.
The physical part might be less of a focus or not required for satisfaction.
Trans for Pay:
Males who who offer sexual services as trans. When they don't identify as trans outside of work.
Their experiences and the services they offer can be diverse, just like any other sex worker.
Escort:
This term often suggests a more professional service.
Escorts might charge more and cater to clients looking for discretion, travel companions, or a more "gentlemanly" experience that can include but isn't always limited to sex.
It's definition can vary widely.
Street work/Freelancer:
Male sex workers who solicit/get clients in public places like streets, parks or bars.
This is high risk
It can sometimes imply a more survival-based form of sex work.
Gigolo (Often Female Clients):
While the term can be used more broadly for male sex workers
it sometimes specifically implies male sex workers who primarily cater to female clients.
House Boy | Living with Client
Sexual services in return for accommodation, food, money.
High Risk
Online/Cam Worker:
Male sex workers connect with clients and provide services online through webcam platforms or by advertising on websites.
Masseur (Sometimes with Extras):
Males who offer sexual services in addition to massage. This can be a way to find clients discreetly. This should be done by ideally someone with qualifications.
Setting Boundaries/
Recording Triggers
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