What is Sex Work?

Sex work is when someone provides sexual services to another person in exchange for something of value.

That "something of value" isn't always just money. It can also be:

💰Money:

This is the most common form of payment.

💊 Drugs:

Clients can offer or receive drugs in exchange for sex.

🏠 Accommodation (a place to stay):

Someone might offer a room or a place to live in return for sexual services.

🚌✈️ Travel:

Clients can offer to pay for travel expenses eg bus ticket, train fare, or a holiday/trip in exchange for sexual services.

🍎👕 Other things:

It could be things like food, clothes, or other goods or favors.

Basically, if someone is giving sexual services and getting something back for it, that's sex work. It's a way some people earn what they need or want.

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Male Sex Work

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🧑‍⚖️ Must Know Laws

🔞 Age:

Are you aged over 18? In some places the legal age is 21 to do sex work.

🔞 Under 18?

It is not sex work is exploitation. Contact the police with someone you trust. You will not be in trouble - your clients might be.

🔞 Clients must be aged 18+

🧑‍⚖️ Local Laws:

Every country, city or town will have different laws sex workers must follow. Knowing the laws will help keep you and your client safe. Laws can be used to help back up your statements and add extra protection if something goes wrong.

Click here to find out.

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✅ 🙅 Consent:

⚠️ Can Be Withdrawn at Any Time ⚠️

👉 Legality: non-consensual sexual acts are considered assault, regardless of the context.

👉 Safety: Protects sex workers from sexual assault and unwanted interactions.

👉 Professionalism: Establishes clear boundaries and expectations in the transaction.

What is consent?

👍 Voluntary and Freely Given:

Consent must be given willingly, without coercion, manipulation, or pressure

🤔 Informed:

Individuals must have a clear understanding of what they are consenting to, including the specific acts, boundaries, and any associated risks. This requires open and honest communication between the sex worker and the client

✅ Specific:

Consent to one act does not imply consent to another. Each desired interaction requires explicit agreement

😊 Excited/Clear Yes (Ideally)

🛑 Can Be Withdrawn at Any Time 🛑

🔞 Given by Adults with Capacity 🔞

If you or your client is overly intoxicated ie drunk, excessive drug use, or mentally unaware - consent can not be given.

⚠️ If in doubt stop immediately ⚠️

🩺📋✅ Medical Consent:

Eg Severe Mental Health, Severe Mobility Issues

Some clients may require support to understand the information needed to make a decision about consent. This support could come from caregivers, advocates, or professionals who can help explain the situation in an accessible way. The final decision, however, must be the clients own, not the supporter's. The sex worker always can say no at anytime as well.

Note: If your client needs assistance to the room - always get the caregiver/helper to do this for you. This is for your own protection if something goes wrong.

Coercion (Pushing and Forcing 😠):

🫠 Pressure and Guilt-Tripping:

A coercive person would try to pressure them into sex work, maybe by making them feel guilty or saying things like, "You have to do this to help me," or "Everyone else is doing it."

🤬 Making Threats:

They might threaten to hurt them, take things away, or tell other people their secrets if they don't do it.

🤥 Lying or Hiding the Truth:

They might not give them all the real information about sex work, only the good parts, or lie about the risks.

🕹️ Controlling Their Choices:

They might try to control their money, who they talk to, or where they go, making it hard for them to say no.

😔 Using Their Weaknesses:

They might know the person is in a tough spot (like needing money) and use that to push them into sex work. Don't tell anyone they will judge you.

👂 Support

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😠 Coercion?

🛟 📚 Support/Helping

👂 Listening and Understanding:

A supportive person would listen to their reasons without judging them. They'd try to understand why this person is considering it.

📚 Providing Information:

They might offer information about the realities of sex work – the good and the bad parts, like safety tips, legal stuff, and how it might affect their life.

🤝 Respecting Their Choice:

Even if they don't agree with the choice, a supportive person would respect the adult's right to make their own decision. They might say, "I'm worried about you, but it's your life, and I'll be here for you."

🤲 Offering Help (If Asked):

If the person decides to go ahead, a supportive friend might help them find safe resources, going to the sexual health clinic, connect with support networks, or just be someone to talk to.

🏥Getting STI/STD Tested 🧪

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🏥 Get Tested:

Before/During/After

Before starting sex work - get a STI/STD test. Make sure that the test includes throat and anal swabs. It's pain free and quick to do. Passing on STI/STDs can get you in big legal trouble. Having a record of getting tested will help if something goes wrong. It is also a legal requirement in some countries.

Ask about vaccines eg HPV, Hepatitis B, COVID-19.

Note - It's important to (if possible) to tell your nurse/doctor you plan on doing sex work. You will get a much more in depth check up. Throat and anal swobs are a must.

Always wear a condom(s)

for oral and anal sex.

No such thing as a stupid question

🚨 Don't do sex work when you have a STI/STD 🚨

Ask About:

🚨💊 PEP

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🛡️💊 PEP

🚨💊 PEP

Your Emergency Plan After Possible Exposure. Eg condom breaking, sexual assault

Imagine something bad happens, like sexual assault or rape. If there was a chance you were exposed to HIV, there's a medicine called PEP. Think of it like an emergency pill you take right away to try and stop HIV from taking hold in your body. The very first thing to do after sexual assault or rape is to get medical help immediately. Tell them you're worried about possible HIV exposure and ask about PEP. Time is super important – PEP works best when you start taking it as soon as possible, ideally within 24 hours, but definitely within 72 hours. It's like a safety net in a tough situation.

It's okay to take someone with you - it can be tough. Your choice.

Ask About PrEP🛡️💊

PrEP is Your Shield Against HIV

Think of PrEP as a daily medicine you take before sex to protect yourself from HIV. Even if you're always careful and use condoms, accidents can happen – condoms can break or slip, even if you do everything right or forget. PrEP acts like a shield, making it much harder for HIV to infect your body if you're exposed. Taking PrEP regularly means you're taking control of your health and adding an extra layer of protection, just in case. It's like wearing a seatbelt – you hope you never need it, but it's good to have it on!

PrEP can be accessed online or through a clinic or GP. It can sometimes be free.

🛡️Condoms & Lube 💦

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✅ Condoms:

❌ Do not let a client put lube in the condom for you. Too much can make it come off.

❌ 🫦 Don't use your mouth to open the condom:

Teeth can create a tear in the condom - wash your hands before opening the condom - it can be frustrating opening a condom with lube on your hands. Use a new one if you are struggling.

❌ No matter how many times you've seen a client, don't ever fully trust them with your safety.

People can change, and it's your health on the line. STI'S/STD's can prevent you from working and be a pain.

❌ Don't keep them in your wallet or anywhere they can get squished or hot, as this can make them break.

👀 Watch Out for Tricks:

Some clients can try to poke holes in condoms or mess with them. If you're in a spot where you have to use a client's condom, look at it very closely before you put it on to check for any damage.

✅ Check the Date!:

Before you use a condom, always look at the expiry date on the package. If it's out of date, it might not work properly and could break.

✅ Learn how to use a condom - don't guess.

Click here to find out

✅ Use pre-lubricated condoms - if not a small pea sized amount of water based lube can be used.

✅ Allergies Matter:

Have different kinds of condoms, latex free condoms options. Some clients are might be allergic to latex. Always use a condom.

✅ Safe Storage:

Keep your condoms in a cool, dry place where they won't get damaged.

🧴❌ Lube:

✅ Use Water-Based Lube:

Always use a water-based lube with condoms. Clients can be allergic to others.

If you using a silicon based use less.

❌ Do not use oil based lube:

❌ Petroleum Jelly (Vaseline)

❌ Baby Oil

❌ Coconut Oil

❌ Olive Oil/Other Vegetable Oils

These kinds of lube can make condoms break more easily. Silicon can be also safe - but lasts a lot longer and harder to get of the penis when too much is apllied putting on a condom.

❌ Client Lube Can Be Risky:

Things can be added you don't know about, like things that burn (like deep heat).

Lube on a Dry Penis = Bad:

When not using a pre-lubed condom - apply a pea sized amount of water based lube. Putting a condom on a dry penis can make it break

💵 Money 💵

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🤑 Money Talk:

Always get the money first - or as soon as you remember.

It's important to know that the market for male sex work can be different from female sex work. Here's a simple way to understand it:

📉 The Demand Can Be Lower:

Think of it like this: there are often more people looking for female sex workers than male sex workers. This means there's generally less demand, or fewer clients, for male providers. It's not about whether you're good at what you do or how you look – it's just the way the market often works. It's a bit like there being more people who want to buy apples than pears.

💸❓No Sure Thing with Income:

Because the demand can be lower and can change from week to week, you can't always count on having a steady income. Some weeks you might be busy, and other weeks it might be very quiet with little or no work. There's no guarantee of how much money you'll make.

🫰 Less Gay Clients Than Straight Clients:

While there are clients of all sexualities who seek out male sex workers, the number of gay or bisexual clients might be smaller than the number of heterosexual clients who seek out female sex workers. Again, this affects the overall demand in the market.

👍 Side Hustle is a Smart Idea:

Because income can be unpredictable, it's often a really good idea to have another way to earn money – a "side hustle." This could be any other job or way to make cash that you can rely on during those quieter weeks in sex work. It helps you have more financial security.

🪞🧍‍♂️ Busy or Quiet Doesn't Mean You're Ugly!

If you're not getting as much work as other male sex workers, please remember it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or how you look. The market demand is just the way it is. Some people will naturally attract more clients due to various factors in the market, and others will have quieter periods. It's more about what clients are looking for at a particular time than about your personal attractiveness.

Think of it like any business: Sometimes certain products or services are just more in demand than others, and it fluctuates. Having a side hustle and understanding the market can help you navigate the ups and downs of male sex work

💸 Money Laundering

Some clients such as drug dealers may ask you for a favour - be careful it could be money laundering - it's illegal. Never trust a client.

Imagine you get money from doing something bad, like selling drugs. That money looks "dirty." Money laundering is like washing that dirty money to make it look clean. You hide where it came from and make it seem like it came from a normal business. So, bad money becomes "clean" money you can spend without people knowing it was from something illegal.

💰🧾 Tax:

Paying tax is a legal requirement and the right thing to do. It's a job not a hobby. Here is a few reasons why you should:

👉 It can protect your creditability if something goes wrong with a client ie rape. A client may use this against you if something to make you as a criminal.

👉 Cash can only get you so far - sometimes you need to use your debit card. Pay rent through internet banking. The bank will ask where the money has come from and seize your funds. Not worth it. Pay tax.

👉 Your money is safest in the bank - cash can be stolen much easier if it cash.

👉 If your goal is to buy a house, car, help out your family. Showing you have paid tax is a must.

People can sometime's use independent contractor instead of sex worker. The tax department will keep this confidential in most countries.

Click here Tax Information in different countries.

💵 Rates Breakdown

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💵 How Much to Charge:

A common misconception is that by charging less you will get more clients - this very rarely true. There will always be quiet days/nights - this doesn't mean you have to drop your rates.

Do not charge for the action - ie oral sex/blow job. This can last at along longer and isn't cost effective.

The amount you charge should include the following.

👉 Cost of supplies (condoms, lube, sex toys)

👉 Venue hire: cost of the room

👉 Transport: usually a taxi is the preferred method.

👉 Set up time: Making sure everything is clean and disinfected

👉 Clean up time: cleaning sheets, lube bottle, disinfecting surfaces and items.

👉 Extra's: Fisting, role play, costumes, cumming/ejaculation etc

👉 Beverages offered: soda, wine, beer etc.

👉 Medication/Check ups: The cost of PrEP and getting a STI/STD check up.

👉 Personal worth - charge what you are worth - what will make it worth it to you.

👉 Tax - The amount of ta you have to pay.

Lower prices does not mean more clients

📅🕒 Time Slots:

Usually sex workers get paid more when they do 'private' work and advertise on there own. Sex workers usually get paid less when working at a brothel. There are pros and cons for both. Do what makes you feel comfortable the most.

Time: 30min, 1 hour/hour(s), Overnight.

Always leave at least 15 minutesTime between clients. You don't want clients running into each other. You need a moment to yourself.

Note: 15 min usually isn't cost effective and usually isn't worth it.

Do not charge for the action - ie oral sex/blow job. This can last at along longer and isn't cost effective.

💰🧾 Tax:

Paying tax is a legal requirement and the right thing to do. It's a job not a hobby. Here is a few reasons why you should:

👉 It can protect your creditability if something goes wrong with a client ie rape. A client may use this against you if something to make you as a criminal.

👉 Cash can only get you so far - sometimes you need to use your debit card. Pay rent through internet banking. The bank will ask where the money has come from and seize your funds. Not worth it. Pay tax.

👉 Your money is safest in the bank - cash can be stolen much easier if it cash.

👉 If your goal is to buy a house, car, help out your family. Showing you have paid tax is a must.

People can sometime's use independent contractor instead of sex worker. The tax department will keep this confidential in most countries.

Click here Tax Information in different countries.

🏠🏨✉️ Location/Invite:

Where are you going to do your sex work.

🏠 In Calls - Location chosen by the sex worker. Your home, a shared location by other sex workers. Brothels - a house/apartment where multiple males work from.

🏠🏨 Out Calls - Location chosen by the client, the worker travels to hotel, home etc of client. Always know where you are and have multiple ways to get out. Don't rely on the money from the job for your taxi or public transport.

🍸🚶‍♂️🌆 Freelance - Going to bars or legal areas frequented by clients. The most risky. This can be the most dangerous type of sex work.

💰🧑‍⚖️Tax & Money Laundering 🧺

💰🧾 Tax:

Paying tax is a legal requirement and the right thing to do. It's a job not a hobby. Here is a few reasons why you should:

👉 It can protect your creditability if something goes wrong with a client ie rape. A client may use this against you if something to make you as a criminal.

👉 Cash can only get you so far - sometimes you need to use your debit card. Pay rent through internet banking. The bank will ask where the money has come from and seize your funds. Not worth it. Pay tax.

👉 Your money is safest in the bank - cash can be stolen much easier if it cash.

👉 If your goal is to buy a house, car, help out your family. Showing you have paid tax is a must.

People can sometime's use independent contractor instead of sex worker. The tax department will keep this confidential in most countries.

Click here Tax Information in different countries.

💸 Money Laundering

Some clients such as drug dealers may ask you for a favour - be careful it could be money laundering - it's illegal. Never trust a client.

Imagine you get money from doing something bad, like selling drugs. That money looks "dirty." Money laundering is like washing that dirty money to make it look clean. You hide where it came from and make it seem like it came from a normal business. So, bad money becomes "clean" money you can spend without people knowing it was from something illegal.

🔖 Discount?

🚩 Clients that ask for a discount are a BIG red flag

Some people can become hard without help, others need something to help them get an erection.

Talk to a medical professional before taking any dodgy blue pill a client, sex worker or drug dealer offers you.

It's okay not get an erection.

If your clothes are off and you have tried a client should still pay you. It's unlikely they will see you again - that's okay.

If you find yourself getting erect with clients often then it may be a good time to consider whether you should continue.

🚀 Unable to get Erection/Hard:

🛎️ 🧖 Services

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🎭 Type of Sex Work:

🏳️‍🌈💰 Gay for Pay:

Males who might not think of themselves as gay or bisexual in their personal lives, but they have sex with male clients for money. It's like a job.

🤗 Companion (More Than Just Sex) :

Some male sex workers offer more than just sex or no sex. They might provide companionship, go out for dinner, have conversations, and offer emotional support. The physical part might be less of a focus.

Trans for Pay ⚧️💰:

These are men who offer sexual services as transgender. Their experiences and the services they offer can be diverse, just like any other sex worker.

🤵💰 Escort (Often Higher End) :

This term often suggests a more professional service. Escorts might charge more and cater to clients looking for discretion, travel companions, or a more "gentlemanly" experience that can include but isn't always limited to sex.

🚶💰 Hustler/Freelancer:

Male sex workers who solicit/get clients in public places like streets, parks or bars. It can sometimes imply a more survival-based form of sex work.

👩💰 Gigolo (Often Female Clients):

While the term can be used more broadly for male sex workers, it sometimes specifically implies male sex workers who primarily cater to female clients. There is often less demand for this service - not always.

💻💰 Online/Cam Worker:

With the internet, many male sex workers connect with clients and provide services online through webcam platforms or by advertising on websites.

💆‍♂️💰 Masseur (Sometimes with Extras):

Some individuals advertise as masseurs but may offer sexual services in addition to massage. This can be a way to find clients discreetly. This should be done by ideally someone with qualifications.

🙅 Boundaries/

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🚧 Boundaries:

Boundaries make it harder for clients or others to take advantage of sex workers. They help prevent exploitation, violence, and unsafe practices. It separate work life from personal life.

Examples: Kissing, rimming, anal receiver or giver. aka Top or Bottom.

🎭 Sexual Fantasies/Role Play

Know what you are comfortable with and what may trigger you. There are a lot of peadofiles and child molesters that visit sex workers.

Click here for more information

No amount of money is worth it

✅ 🙅 Consent:

⚠️ Can Be Withdrawn at Any Time ⚠️

👉 Legality: non-consensual sexual acts are considered assault, regardless of the context.

👉 Safety: Protects sex workers from sexual assault and unwanted interactions.

👉 Professionalism: Establishes clear boundaries and expectations in the transaction.

What is consent?

👍 Voluntary and Freely Given:

Consent must be given willingly, without coercion, manipulation, or pressure

🤔 Informed:

Individuals must have a clear understanding of what they are consenting to, including the specific acts, boundaries, and any associated risks. This requires open and honest communication between the sex worker and the client

✅ Specific:

Consent to one act does not imply consent to another. Each desired interaction requires explicit agreement

😊 Excited Yes (Ideally)

🛑 Can Be Withdrawn at Any Time 🛑

🔞 Given by Adults with Capacity 🔞

If you or your client is overly intoxicated ie drunk, excessive drug use, or mentally unaware - consent can not be given.

⚠️ If in doubt stop immediately ⚠️

🩺📋✅ Medical Consent:

Eg Severe Mental Health, Severe Mobility Issues

Some clients may require support to understand the information needed to make a decision about consent. This support could come from caregivers, advocates, or professionals who can help explain the situation in an accessible way. The final decision, however, must be the clients own, not the supporter's. The sex worker always can say no at anytime as well.

Note: If your client needs assistance to the room - always get the caregiver/helper to do this for you. This is for your own protection if something goes wrong.

👨‍⚕️ Sex Worker Therapist

Some clients will tell you some intense information which can be hard to reply to.

👉 It is okay to listen, and it is okay to ask the client to stop talking about it.

👉 If you don't know what say - say that sucks, sorry to hear that happened, that must be tough.

👉 Do not share personal trauma or make comparisons to your own life.

👉 The best thing to do is advise them to seek professional help as your aren't one

🚀 Erection/Hard:

Some people can become hard without help, others need something to help them get an erection.

Talk to a medical professional before taking any dodgy blue pill a client, sex worker or drug dealer offers you.

It's okay not get an erection.

If your clothes are off and you have tried a client should still pay you. It's unlikely they will see you again - that's okay.

If you find yourself getting erect with clients often then it may be a good time to consider whether you should continue.

💦 Ejaculation/Cumming

Sex worker: You do not have to cum with each client. Usually an extra charge incurred. If you are not able to, that's okay.

Some people want to save it to maintain an erection for future clients.

Client: Most clients will want to cum before the end of the booking. However if the client is unable to then that is not your problem. This can be because of drug use and is not a reflection on your service.

Pre mature ejaculation: Some clients might cum quickly - respect if the client wants you to stop to take advantage of the hour/half an hour.

Most clients will end the booking when they cum, some will want to chat/cuddle. If they booked an hour - get paid the full amount even if it was much shorter time.

🧑‍💼 Clients:

Never trust your client - no matter how nice, persuasive or the job they have. Help always comes with conditions

🔞 Clients must be aged 18 +

Prepare for any client to become a stalker. Do not give them personal information such as what your parents do, what school you went to, what location you live in.

Clients will always been seen as more reputable then you due to discrimination.

You may know your client when they arrive. This could be family friend, work mate, priest, politician, professor, local supermarket worker or someone about to die. If you know your client then best not to go through with the booking.

Do not share personal information with your client - they can become stalkers and use this information to harass you and intimidate you.

🫵 Choose Your Clients:

Males, females, trans women, trans males, cross dressers etc.

Only do business with clients you are comfortable with. Saying no doesn't mean you won't get a better future client.

🤐 Confidentiality:

Keeping what you do with a client usually is kept secret. Except from when discussing bad clients. Unless the client says so - wear something that makes you blend in. Carry costumes, condoms, lube, toys in a bag.

Most clients will want you to ignore them in public - especially when they are with their work mates or wife and kids.

Some clients will approach you. This is usually when they are at a bar. You can act dumb - or get a free drink up to you.

🧑‍✈️ Security 🔒

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🪪 Name & Age ✍️

🔒 Protect Your Info!

Keeping your personal details private is a key part of staying safe. Never use your real name or your actual date of birth with clients or in your online profiles.

Be careful about sharing even seemingly small details like your star sign, what university you go to or went to, what you studied, or the year you graduated.

🛑 Always take your wallet with you - even to the toilet. 🛑

Why Keep Even Small Details Secret?

👉 Safety from Harm:

Some bad people might try to piece together small bits of information to figure out who you really are and track you down, harass you, or even harm you.

👉 Privacy from Judgment:

Even things like your university or star sign can sometimes be enough for someone you know in your personal life (family, friends, work colleagues) to potentially identify you online or in person, leading to judgment or problems.

👉 Control Your Narrative:

By using a work name and keeping even minor personal details private, you control what information is out there about your professional life. The less they know, the safer you are.

👉 Online Security:

Sharing any identifying information online can make you more vulnerable to social engineering, where people try to trick you into giving away more sensitive information.

Every little piece of information can be a clue. The less you give away, the harder it is for anyone to connect your work life to your personal life. It's about creating layers of protection for your safety and privacy. Be vague and keep the focus on your professional services, not your personal life.

If you slip up and say your name - lie and say isn't yours. Make up fake names and ages - it's okay to give a few out.

Never trust a client - they can turn into a stalker or enemy.

📸 Work Photos 🎥

Best Practice - If you don't want the world to know 🌍

When it comes to photos for your work, remember that what goes online can stay online forever and reach unexpected eyes. Never use photos that are already on your personal social media, no matter how good you look in them.

If you choose to show your face consider:

😱 Your Mum Might See It!:

Once a picture is out there, you lose control of who sees it. Always assume that anything you send could end up being seen by someone you know, like your family, friends and future partners.

😠 Mean Clients Exist:

Unfortunately, some clients can be cruel or even try to use your photos against you. They might share them without your permission or use them to try and blackmail you.

💼🎓 Your Face Can Hurt Your Future:

If you use photos of your face, there's a real risk that those pictures could be found by future employers or schools, potentially affecting your opportunities outside of sex work.

💨 Once It's Out, It's Out! : Even if you delete a photo, it might have already been saved or shared by someone else.

Best Practices for Photos:

👉 No Face (When Possible):

The safest option is often not to show your face in work-related photos. Focus on other appealing features.

Clients will still book you - some like mystery

Showing your face doesn't always mean more clients.

👉 Create Separate Content:

Take new photos specifically for your work that are distinct from your personal social media. Photo's can be reversed searched. Have seperate social media personal and work.

👉 Use Watermarks:

If you do share photos, consider using a watermark with your work name or handle to make it harder for others to use them without your permission.

👉 Be Careful What You Show:

Think about tattoos, the background and any identifying features in your photos.

👉 Trust Your Gut:

If you feel uneasy about sending a photo, don't do it.

Protecting your image is a crucial part of your security. It can happen to anyone. By being careful with your photos, you can help safeguard your privacy and your future.

Sex work has an expiry date for most.

😡🚫 Revenge Porn is Wrong and Against the Law! But it happens 🖕

Sending someone's nude or sexual pictures or videos without their permission is called revenge porn, and it's a really harmful and illegal thing to do.

👉 Being an sex worker doesn't mean it's okay - you have rights.

👉 Clients can't send your pictures or videos without your consent.

Even if you used to have a relationship with that person or they sent you the pictures in the past, you never have the right to share them with others without their clear OK. Doing so can cause a lot of emotional distress, damage their reputation, and lead to serious legal trouble for the person who shares them. It's a form of abuse and is treated as a crime in many places.

📍 🗺️ Location(s)

🏠🔒 Incall Security:

🔒🖼️ Hide Personal Photos:

Put away any personal photos of yourself, cars, family, or friends before a client arrives. This helps keep your private life separate. Leaves less clues.

🔒📄💰Lock Away Documents and Money:

Keep any letters, bills, or documents with your real name and address locked away securely where clients can't easily see them. Clients can steal money too.

🛑🏠 ✅🏢 Work Address Only:

If you live at your work location, always tell clients it's just where you work from, not where you live full-time. This helps maintain your privacy. Clients can become stalkers.

🚶🚕📱 Outcall Security:

🏃‍♂️ Have an Exit Strategy:

Always think about how you can leave quickly if you need to. Clients can turn on you quickly - especially if you no.

🚌 Public Transport Backup:

Know the public transport options in the area in case taxis aren't reliable. Have bus routes or train station locations in mind.

🅿️ Park Away From Work:

If driving, park your car a little distance away from the client's house and walk the last bit. This makes it harder for them to track your car and gives you a chance to note their license plate.

📍 Share Your Location:

Always tell a trusted friend where you're going, who you're seeing (if you know), and when you expect to be back. If you can't tell someone directly, email or text yourself the details.

🕵️‍♂️ Checks for Hidden Cameras:

👉 Look for Anything Unusual:

👉 Small Holes or Lenses:

Smoke detectors, clocks, electrical outlets, lamps, shelves, picture frames, plants, toys or odd looking glasses.

📱🔋 Pack a Portable Charger:

Avoid a Dead Battery: You never know when your phone battery might run low, especially if you're out for a long time or in an area with poor reception that drains your battery faster.

📶 📱Reception Check:

Be aware that some locations might have poor or no phone reception. Have a plan for communication if this happens. Local bus stops, taxi for when the booking ends.

💳📱Phone Credit is Key:

Always make sure your phone has enough credit to make calls or send texts in an emergency. You can call the police for free.

💭 ⚠️Trust Your Gut:

If a situation feels off or unsafe, leave before things escalate. Your safety is more important.

🌃 🍸 Street Work/Freelance Security:

💡 Well-Lit Areas:

Stick to well-lit and more public areas where there are likely to be other people around.

🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Work with a Buddy:

If possible, work in pairs with another male sex worker. There's safety in numbers, and you can look out for each other.

🧑‍🔧 🧑‍🏭🧑‍🔬Know Your Colleagues:

Get to know other sex workers on the street. They can be a source of support and information about potentially dangerous clients or areas.

🧠🗺️ Mental Map:

Pay attention to the route a client is taking you. Mentally note landmarks, street names, and any turns. This can help you if you need to find your way back or describe your location to someone.

📝🛡️Written/Texted Words Can Keep You Safe:

In the world of male sex work, having things in writing can be a powerful tool for your safety and security.

Why Written Records Matter:

📝 Clear Agreements:

Messaging about services, boundaries, and payment beforehand creates a record of what was agreed upon. This can help prevent misunderstandings and disputes later.

🕵️ Identifying Information:

Saving client contact details (even if it's just a username or temporary number) and any information they provide can be helpful if something goes wrong. Eg Brown hair, blue eye. funny tatoo - American accent.

🔎 Evidence if Needed:

If you experience harassment, stalking, or any other issues, written messages can serve as evidence if you need to report it to support services or the police.

🚧 Setting Boundaries:

Clearly stating your boundaries in writing before a meeting helps ensure the client understands and respects them from the start.

🗣️ Sharing Information:

You can easily forward written details about a client or location to a trusted friend or contact as part of your safety plan.

🧠 Review and Reflect:

Looking back at written conversations can sometimes help you spot red flags or patterns in client behavior.

Written communication provides a clear trail and a reference point. It can help protect you from miscommunication, hold clients accountable, and provide crucial information if you ever need support or assistance. Make it a habit to keep records of your work-related communications.

🙅‍♂️ 📝 Rape Plan

Rape is Never Okay and Confusing: 💔🛡️💊

Rape is any sexual act that happens without your consent. Consent means freely and willingly agreeing to do something. If someone forces, pressures, or tricks you into a sexual act, or if you are unable to consent (e.g., because you are unconscious or under the influence of drugs or alcohol), it is rape. As a male sex worker, you have the right to say no at any time, and any sexual act without your clear and enthusiastic consent is rape.

What to Do If Rape Happens to You:

This is a difficult and traumatic experience, and there is no right or wrong way to feel. Here are some steps you can take:

🦺 Your Safety First:

If you are in immediate danger, try to get to a safe place. Collect DNA evidence if you can - scratch etc. Take anything that could be useful - take a pictures.

💚 Don't Blame Yourself:

Remember, what happened was not your fault. The person who committed the assault is responsible.

🏥 Seek Medical Attention Immediately:

Even if you don't have visible injuries, it's crucial to see a doctor or go to a hospital as soon as possible. They can provide medical care, check for injuries, and offer options for STI and pregnancy prevention (if applicable). Importantly, they can also discuss PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis), a course of HIV medication that can significantly reduce the risk of HIV transmission if started within 72 hours (ideally sooner) after a potential exposure.

🧳 Preserve Evidence:

Try not to shower, wash your clothes, or touch anything that might contain evidence. However, if you need to for medical reasons, that's okay – your health comes first. Store messages - let the client know you were not happy with what happened (Optional)

👮‍♂️ Report to the Police (If You Choose):

You have the right to report the assault to the police. They can investigate and help hold the person accountable. You can also choose to make a report later if you're not ready right away. It can be information only.

🫂 Seek Support:

Talk to someone you trust – a friend, family member, therapist, or a support organisation for survivors of sexual assault. Sharing what happened can be a crucial step in healing. There are many organisations that specifically help male survivors. Surround yourself with good people.

👩‍⚕️💬 Consider Counseling or Therapy:

Trauma from sexual assault can have long-lasting effects. Seeking professional help from a therapist who specialises in sexual trauma can provide you with tools and support to cope and heal. Find the right person - some are shit.

👨‍⚖️ Know Your Rights:

You have rights, including the right to be believed, the right to support, and the right to pursue justice if you choose. Though some people are untouchable - which is shit.

Remember, you are not alone, and help is available. If you think you've been exposed to HIV during the assault, seek medical attention immediately to discuss PEP.

Your experience is valid, and you deserve support and healing. There are resources specifically for male survivors of sexual assault that can provide understanding and assistance. Don't hesitate to reach out. Help can take time sometimes.

🔒👤 Human Trafficking

🧑‍🦯✈️💼❓Human Trafficking:

The key thing about human trafficking is the lack of freedom and control. The person being trafficked isn't making their own choices; they are being exploited. It's a serious crime, and it's important to know that help is available if this is happening to you or someone you know. This can happen when clients say that 'want to help you'.

Here's what that might look like:

🫵 Being Forced:

A client might threaten you or hurt you if you don't do sex work. They might take your money and not let you leave.

🌀 Being Tricked:

Someone might lie to you about a job or a relationship to get you to a place where they can then force you into sex work. A client very rarely will help you.

🚷 Not Being Able to Leave:

Even if you want to stop, the person controlling you won't let you. They might take your ID, money, or threaten your family.

🙅‍♂️💵 Working for Free:

It doesn't always have to be about getting paid for sex work. Trafficking can also mean someone is making you work for them in other ways for free, like doing chores all day and night for a client who promised you something but isn't delivering. It can even be office work "for experience". You're not being allowed to leave and aren't getting fairly paid for your labor.

Immediate Actions:

🤔 Recognise You Are Being Trafficked:

Understand that you are being controlled and exploited against your will. This realization is the first step towards seeking freedom.

🧯 Prioritise Your Safety:

Any attempt to escape can be dangerous. Assess the immediate risks and try to act when the opportunity presents the lowest possible danger to yourself.

👀 Look for Opportunities:

Be observant for moments when your captor(s) are distracted, asleep, or when there might be a chance to slip away. This could be during transport, at a work location, or even in your living situation.

🆘 Reach Out for Help (If Possible):

👤 Trusted Individual: If you can discreetly contact a trusted friend, family member, or even someone you feel might help (a seemingly kind stranger, a service worker), tell them you need help and where you are if possible. Use a code word if you have one.

👮 Law Enforcement: If you see police or other authorities, try to get their attention and signal that you need help.

📞 Helplines: If you have access to a phone or internet, try to contact a human trafficking hotline. Many have 24/7 services. (See the resources listed at the end).

💡 Create a Diversion (If Safe): If a direct escape isn't possible, try to create a minor distraction that could give you a few moments to get away. This could be faking illness, causing a small accident (if it won't lead to severe retaliation), or starting a minor argument.

🫡 Follow Instructions Carefully (Until You Can Escape): While you are still being controlled, try to comply with instructions to avoid escalating the situation and putting yourself in more immediate danger.

Planning and Preparation (If Possible):

🔍 Gather Information: Try to learn about your surroundings, potential escape routes, and who your captors are. Any detail could be useful.

📱 Save Contact Information: If you have access to a phone, try to memorize or discreetly save important phone numbers (trusted contacts, helplines, emergency services).

💰 Hide Small Amounts of Money or Resources: If possible, try to save any small amount of money, food, or useful items that could aid your escape.

🗺️ Develop a Simple Escape Plan: Even a basic idea of how you might get away (e.g., during a specific activity, at a certain location) can increase your chances when an opportunity arises.

During the Escape:

🏃 Act Quickly and Decisively: Once you have an opportunity, act fast. Don't hesitate.

🏠 Get to a Safe Place: Head towards a public area, a police station, a hospital, or anywhere you believe you can find safety and help.

❌ Don't Trust Easily: Be cautious of strangers who approach you immediately after escaping, but don't be afraid to ask for help from people in positions of authority or in public places.

🦵💥 This may be in the may be the person keeping you captive kicking you with nothing. Without notice.

After Escaping:

👮 Contact Authorities: Report what happened to the police. They can help you and investigate the traffickers.

🏥 Seek Medical Attention: Get a medical check-up, especially if you have been injured or sexually assaulted.

📞 Reach Out to Support Organisations: There are many organisations dedicated to helping human trafficking survivors. They can provide shelter, counseling, legal aid, and other essential services.

👮‍♂️ Police 👮‍♀️

👮 Police:

The police should help you where sex work is legal. However like any profession there are people better at their jobs than other. It can be a mixed experience and they can treat you like your profession not a human. They can also lie about your rights.

If possible bring an advocate from a sexual assault charity.

Please note:

New Zealand Prostitute Collective is not a good option if in New Zealand. They can act like its a holiday - not a job.

Don't be afraid to ask for another police person. You can ask for a different gender or just another police person.

🏷️ Working Name:

Having a 'working name' seperate from your own is very common.

It can help you from being exploited and less likely your personal information will be discovered. This can happen regardless.

Be prepared to be called 'working name' in public. This can be by clients or other sex workers. Client can not be trusted - no matter how nice they are.

👻 Ghost of Sex Work:

😳 Running Into Clients in Unexpected Places:

Imagine going to your cousin's wedding and suddenly seeing a client you used to see standing in line for the buffet. You meet your dad's friend. It can be super awkward and make you feel really uncomfortable. It's like your work life suddenly crashing into your personal life.

🤫➡️🗣️ People Spilling Your Secret:

Some clients or even people you've told might use your sex work against you. They might tell future partners you're dating or even their families about your past or present work. This can cause a lot of hurt and make it hard to build trust in new relationships.

😠➡️🏢 Threats to Your "Normal" Job:

Some people might find out about your sex work and try to use it to hurt you. They might threaten to tell your boss at your regular job, which could put your income and career at risk. This can create a lot of fear and stress.

😨 Living in Fear of Being Found Out:

Even if no one knows right now, there can be a constant worry in the back of your mind that someone will find out about your sex work. The lie on your CV coming out. This fear can make it hard to relax and be yourself around people.

🤕➡️🧠 Scars That Don't Go Away (PTSD):

If you've experienced sexual assault while doing sex work, that trauma can stay with you and cause a lot of pain and anxiety, even long after it happened. This is called PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder), and it can affect your relationships and your daily life.

😔 Knowing Danger Can Still Lurk:

Even when you're not actively working as a sex worker, the fear of sexual assault might still be there. Sadly, these kinds of attacks can happen to anyone, not just sex workers, and past experiences can make you feel more vulnerable.

Why This "Ghost" Matters:

These things can make it really hard to move on from sex work or to have healthy personal relationships and a sense of security and self worth. It's like the past keeps showing up in your present. It's important to remember that these feelings are valid, and there are people who can offer support if you're dealing with any of these challenges. You don't have to carry this "ghost" alone.

🔥 Active Sex Work

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Receiving/Bottoming

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🧠 Bottoming

Mental Prep

🧠 Getting Your Mind Ready🧘

Just like your body, your mind needs to be ready for bottoming. Here's how to mentally prepare:

🤝 Practice Makes Easier (with Someone You Trust):

If you're new to bottoming, try practicing with a partner who isn't a client. This can help you get used to the sensations and figure out what feels comfortable in a safe and relaxed space.

🧘 Relax Your Muscles, Relax Your Mind:

Tension can make bottoming uncomfortable or even painful. Focus on taking deep breaths and trying to relax your anal muscles. A relaxed mind helps a relaxed body.

🫵 🛑 You're Always in Control to Stop:

Remember, you can stop offering bottoming as a service at any time. Your comfort and well-being come first. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. A booking time doesn't determine how you bottom.

📝 Plan for After:

Mentally prepare for the end of the session, including how you'll handle condom removal and clean up. Knowing what to expect can ease anxiety.

💊 Know Your PEP Plan:

If you're concerned about HIV exposure, know how to access PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) quickly. Having a plan can reduce stress.

Click here for more info and locations.

🤔 Trust Your Gut Feelings:

If a client or situation makes you feel uneasy about bottoming, it's okay to say no and end a booking early. Your intuition is there to protect you.

🫵 🛑 Your Body, Your Rules:

Stop Anytime!

Even if you've started, you can say "stop" at any point if you feel pain, discomfort, or just change your mind. Your consent is ongoing.

🤷 It's Not for Everyone:

Bottoming isn't something every male sex worker has to do. It's okay if it's not for you. Some clients prefer top/givers only.

🤔 Personal is Personal:

Sometimes, certain intimate acts might feel better kept for your personal relationships, not your work life. It's healthy to have those boundaries.

Mentally preparing involves knowing your limits, having a plan for safety, and remembering that you are always in control of what you do with your body.

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🍑 Bottoming

Physical

Different Methods:

💧 Douching:

Anal douching is cleaning out the inside of the anus with (warm or cold) water.

Douching: Less is More!

🎥 Watch here for more how to and information

If you choose to douche before anal sex, do it gently and not too often (no more than twice in a day)

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Fibre: Your Body's Natural Cleaner! 🍎🥦

Think of eating lots of fibre as your body's gentle, built-in way of keeping things moving smoothly down there! Instead of a quick rinse right before sex, fibre works over time to help you have regular and easy bowel movements.

How Fibre "Douching" Works (Naturally!):

👉 Regular Pooping:

When you eat enough fiber, it helps you poop regularly. This means your body is naturally clearing out waste, which can reduce the need for manual douching right before sex.

👉 Softer and Easier:

Fibre makes your poop softer and bulkier, so it passes more easily and comfortably. This can mean there's less residue left behind.

👉 Knowing Your Cycle:

Pay attention to when you usually have bowel movements. If you know your "poop schedule," you might be able to plan your bathroom visits before seeing a client, which can also reduce the urge to douche.

Important Note: Eating fibre is a healthy, long-term way to manage your bowel movements. It's not the same as a quick douche right before sex. However, a good fibre diet can make things naturally cleaner and more predictable over time, potentially lessening the desire or need for frequent douching. It's all about working with your body's natural rhythms!

Douching:

Anal douching is cleaning out the inside of the anus with (warm or cold) water.

💧 Douching: Less is More!

🎥 Watch here for more how to and information

If you choose to douche before anal sex, do it gently and not too often (no more than twice in a day).

Douche Bulb Method:

Get Your Supplies:

1) You'll need your douche device (bulb or bottle with a nozzle) plain, lukewarm water.Don't use soap, harsh chemicals, or hot water.

2) Clean Your Douche: Make sure your douche device is clean before you use it. Wash it with mild soap and rinse it well with clean water.

3) Fill the Douche: Fill the bulb or bottle with the lukewarm water or saline solution. Don't fill it up all the way; a moderate amount is enough

4) Lubricate the Nozzle: Use a water-based lubricant on the tip of the nozzle. This will make it slide in more easily and prevent injury.

5) Get in a Comfortable Position: You can stand in the shower, squat over the toilet, or lie on your side in the bathtub. Choose a position where you feel relaxed and where the water can easily come out.

6) Insert Gently: Relax your anal area and gently insert the lubricated nozzle just a few inches into your anus. Don't force it in.

7) Squeeze Gently: If you're using a bulb, squeeze it gently to release the water slowly into your rectum. If it's a bottle, squeeze it gently and steadily. You should only need to use a small amount of water (maybe half to one squeeze of a bulb or a small squeeze of a bottle)

8) Hold Briefly (Optional): You can hold the water inside for a few seconds if it feels okay, but you don't have to.

9) Release the Water: Relax and let the water come out into the toilet or shower.

10) Repeat (If Needed, Gently): You can repeat this process once or twice until the water that comes out looks mostly clear. Don't overdo it! Douching too many times can be harmful.

11) Clean Up: Wash the outside of your anus with mild soap and water. Clean your douche device thoroughly after use.

Over-douching can cause irritation and increase your risk of infections by washing away good bacteria.

💧 Douching:

Anal douching is cleaning out the inside of the anus with (warm or cold) water.

Douching: Less is More!

🎥 Watch here for more how to and information

If you choose to douche before anal sex, do it gently and not too often (no more than twice in a day)

Emergency Douching - Water Bottle (Use with Caution!):

If you don't have a proper douche, you can use a clean, flexible water bottle with a smooth, rounded tip as a last resort. However, this is not the safest method and should be avoided if possible. Proper douching tools are designed for this purpose and are less likely to cause injury.

1) Get a Clean Plastic Bottle: Use a clean, empty, flexible plastic water bottle.

2) Warm Water Only: Fill the bottle with plain, lukewarm water.

3) Smooth the Tip: Make sure the bottle's tip is smooth and doesn't have any sharp edges that could hurt you. You can try to smooth it with your finger.

4) Lots of Lube: Use plenty of water-based lubricant on the tip of the bottle.

5) Gentle Insertion: Get into a comfortable position (like in the shower or over the toilet) and very gently insert the lubricated tip just a little way into your anus (no more than an inch or two). Be extremely careful and go very slowly.

6) Very Gentle Squeeze: Squeeze the bottle very gently to release a small amount of water. Don't squeeze hard!

7) Release: Let the water come out.

8) One Time Only (If Possible): With a water bottle, it's even more important to be gentle and not use too much water or repeat the process too many times.

9) Clean Up: Wash yourself and discard the water bottle or clean it thoroughly if you plan to reuse it for its original purpose (drinking).

💊 Gastro Stop Pills: Use with Care!

Gastro Stop (loperamide) can stop diarrhea by slowing down your bowels. It can be helpful for sudden diarrhea, but it's important to use it carefully:

👉 Don't use it for just anything. Diarrhea can be your body getting rid of something bad.

👉 Follow the instructions on the packet. Don't take more than you should.

👉 Don't use it for too long. If your diarrhea doesn't stop in a couple of days, or if you have other problems like fever or blood in your poo, see a doctor.

👉 Talk to a doctor or pharmacist if you have questions or if you have other health conditions.

Gastro Stop can provide quick relief, but it's not a long-term solution and can sometimes hide more serious problems. It can also cause side effects like constipation.

Think of it this way: Be gentle with douching, eat plenty of fiber to keep things regular and comfortable, and use Gastro Stop carefully and only when you really need it for diarrhea, and always follow the instructions. Taking care of your gut health in these different ways can help you feel better overall.

🎬 Action Time

Bottoming/Receiving Anal Sex

Bottoming: Keeping Things Safe and Comfortable! You're in Control!

Before You Start 🛑🍑
Gently check around your anus 🍑 for any blood 🩸.

If you see blood, stop ❌ and don’t go ahead.

Notice how everything feels 🖐️ — this is your baseline to compare after the session ⏱️✅.

At the start, choose a position that feels most comfortable and relaxed for you.

Being relaxed can make the experience safer and more enjoyable.

It's also best to avoid using poppers. If you're new to bottoming, or want to explore different sensations, it's highly recommended to practice with a partner you trust who is not a client.

Why Practice with a Non-Client?

😌 No Pressure:

You can take your time, experiment, and communicate openly without the pressures of a paid encounter.

😎 Build Comfort:

You can gradually get used to the sensations and find what feels good and what doesn't.

✌️ Open Communication:

You can talk freely about what you like and dislike without worrying about professional boundaries with a client.

⚠️ Safety First:

You can learn about safer practices in a relaxed environment. It can be painful and is not for everyone.

During the Act (with a Client):

👀 Check That Condom!:

Make sure a condom is used the whole time. Check it often, especially right at the start and every few minutes, to make sure it hasn't slipped or broken. The client doesn't need to know you are doing this. Stealthing - when a condom removes the condom is a crime.

🛑 Stop If It Hurts!:

If you feel any sharp pain or discomfort, say "stop" immediately. Bottoming shouldn't hurt. Pain can mean something is wrong, like a tear, which can increase the risk of STIs and injury. It doesn't matter if its only been seconds.

💩 Shit Happens!:

If you feel like you need to have a bowel movement (poo) during sex, it's okay to stop. It's better to take a break to go to the toilet and clean up than to try and continue. Don't be embarrassed; it's natural.

⚠️ Condom Rules: Your Responsibility! ⚠️

🫵 You Put the Condom On:

To ensure your safety and prevent any tampering, you should be the one to put the condom on the client's penis before any penetration happens. This gives you control and helps protect both of you.

🐢 Go Slow at the Start: Advise the client to go very slowly at the beginning of penetration.

This gives your body time to adjust and relax, making it more comfortable and less likely to tear. You can say something like, "Please go very slowly at first," or "I need you to take it easy at the start." You set the pace. Porn is not reality.

💔 Broken Condom? Stop!:

If the condom breaks or slips off during sex, stop right away. The risk of STI transmission is much higher without a condom. 1 Talk to the client about stopping the session or using a new condom after cleaning up. It's a good idea for both of you to consider getting STI testing afterwards and use PEP.

😨➡️🧘 Condom Stuck Inside?

Stay Calm, Don't Panic! If the condom gets stuck inside you, try to relax. Usually, you can push it out gently by bearing down like you're having a bowel movement. If you can't get it out easily, don't try to pull it forcefully. It's best to seek medical help. A doctor or nurse at a clinic or emergency room can remove it safely and discreetly. Don't be ashamed to ask for help.

Remember:

Practice with trusted partners first.

Your safety, comfort, and control are the top priorities.

Avoid risky substances like poppers.

Don't be afraid to set boundaries, stop if something feels wrong, control the pace and position.

Choose comfortable positions, and take care of your body. You are in charge of what happens to you. If you are not then it's sexual assault potentially.

🔚 👋 After Bottom

After Bottoming:

Taking Care of Yourself! 🚿

The session is over, but your self-care isn't! Here's what's best to do after bottoming:

👀🩸 Check for Blood, Gently:

After showering, take a moment to gently check your anus for any signs of bleeding or irritation. You can use a mirror to help. Small amounts of redness or mild soreness can happen, but any noticeable bleeding should be a concern. If you see blood, it's best to avoid more anal sex until it's fully healed.

🧼🚿 Head Straight for the Shower:

Gently wash the anal area with mild soap and warm water. This helps to remove any fluids, lube, or potential germs. Avoid harsh scrubbing.

🤔🛌 Listen to Your Body: Time to Rest?

Pay attention to how your body feels. If you're feeling sore, tired, or uncomfortable, it's okay to say you're not up for more bottoming or any other strenuous activity. Your comfort and well-being are important. Don't feel pressured to do more if your body is telling you to rest.

💧 Rehydrate:

Drink some water to help your body recover.

Gentle Cleaning (If You can't Shower):

If you can't shower right away, try to gently wipe the area with a soft, damp cloth or a water based cleaner wipe. Shower as soon as you can.

🤔 Consider Aftercare:

Some people find gentle, water-based lube applied externally can help soothe any mild irritation.

Key Takeaway:

After bottoming, prioritise cleaning the area gently, checking for any signs of injury, and most importantly, listening to your body's signals about whether you're ready for more activity or need to rest. Taking this time for self-care helps protect your health and well-being. ❤️

Know Your Body:

Note: These quick checks are not a substitute for regular, thorough self-exams and regular visits to a sexual health clinic or doctor. They are just an extra layer of awareness to help you stay on top of your body's health.

Make it a habit: A quick peek before and a gentle scan after – it's all part of looking out for yourself 👍

Why a Pre-Check?

Know Your Baseline: It helps you remember what your "normal" looks and feels like, so you're more likely to spot something new later. Notice any blood? How is your anus feeling?

Peace of Mind: Knowing you're starting the encounter feeling okay can give you more confidence.

👀 Quick Look After :

Gentle Scan: After the encounter, take a few moments (maybe when you're showering or getting changed) to gently look at the same areas: penis and groin area, anus, mouth, skin that had contact. Any blood?

Notice Anything New: Are there any new red marks, irritation, or anything that wasn't there before?

Information for Later: If you do notice something a few days later, having a mental note of what things looked like right after can be helpful information for a doctor.

🤔 What to Do If You See Something:

Don't Panic! Not every spot or bump is serious, but it's always best to be sure.

Don't Try to Treat It Yourself. Let a doctor or nurse take a look.

Go to a Clinic or Doctor: They can give you a proper check-up and tell you what's going on. Sexual health clinics are really good for this.

Be Honest: Tell the doctor or nurse about your work so they can give you the best advice and tests.

Taking care of your body is part of taking care of your business and your health! Regular checks help keep you and your clients safer.

🩸 Bloody Client

If you see blood during a client interaction, it's important to stop what you're doing and take steps to stay safe and prevent the spread of germs, STIs/STDs. Here's the best and safest way to handle it in simple terms:

🛑 If You See Blood: Stop!

Everyone Stop: As soon as you or the client sees blood, stop the sexual activity right away.

Don't Keep Going: Continuing when there's blood can increase the risk of infections and HIV for everyone involved.

🛑 If You See Blood During Anal Sex: Stop! It Needs Time to Heal!

Everyone Stop:

As soon as you or the client sees blood during anal sex, stop the activity immediately.

Cuts Need Time to Heal:

The anus is a delicate area, and even small tears or cuts can bleed. If this happens, it needs time to heal properly. Don't continue the anal sex or any other activity that puts pressure on that area. Doing so can make the injury worse, cause more bleeding, and increase the risk of infection and pain.

Your Safety and Comfort Always Come First!

Consent Can Be Removed: Remember, you can withdraw your consent at any point, even if bleeding starts. You have the right to say "stop" and the client must respect that. Bleeding is a clear sign that something isn't right, and continuing is not safe.

What to Do Next if it happens to you:

Clean Up Gently:

Wash the area gently with mild soap and water.

Let It Heal:

Avoid any anal sex or activities that strain the area until it is fully healed and no longer sore. This might take a few days or longer.

Consider Medical Advice:

If the bleeding is heavy, doesn't stop quickly, or is very painful, it's a good idea to see a doctor to get it checked out.

Key Things to Remember:

❌ Blood during anal sex means stop.

🕒 The anus needs time to heal after a cut.

Continuing can cause more damage and infection and increase HIV risk.

⚠️Your consent to continue can be removed at any time.⚠️

Safety First! 🧽🧤

Avoid Touching Directly:

If possible, don't touch the blood directly with your bare skin. If you have gloves, put them on.

Wash Up:

Wash any part of your body that might have come into contact with the blood thoroughly with soap and water as soon as you can.

Tell the Client to Wash Too:

Ask the client to wash their body as well.

Clean the Area (If Needed): 🧼🧴

🧽 🧻 If blood got on surfaces:

If blood has gotten on sheets, towels, or other surfaces, it's best to clean them as soon as possible using soap and water. If you have disinfectant, you can use that too.

Think About Health Afterwards (Important!): 🧑‍⚕️🏥

🧪 Get Checked Out:

It's a really good idea for both you and the client to get checked out by a doctor or at a sexual health clinic after there's been blood during sex. This is because blood can carry infections like HIV and hepatitis.

🧑‍⚕️ Be Honest with the Doctor:

Tell the doctor what happened so they can give you the right tests and advice.

💊 PEP (If You Think There Was a Risk):

If you think there was a significant risk of HIV exposure (like if the client is HIV positive and the condom broke or wasn't used), ask the doctor about PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis). It's a medicine that can help prevent HIV if started very soon after exposure (ideally within 24-72 hours).

Key Things to Remember:

• Blood can carry germs, STI's/STDS HIV.

• Stop if you see blood.

• Wash yourself and ask the client to wash.

• Use a new condom if you continue.

• Get medical advice afterwards.

Your health and comfort are paramount. Don't push through pain or bleeding. Allow your body time to heal.

Stalker Client:

Imagine a client who just won't leave you alone, even after your work together is done. That could be a stalker. Here are some signs, what to do, and how to stay safe:

Signs a Client Might Be a Stalker 🚩:

📞 📱📧 Too Many Messages/Calls:

The client contact you way more than needed, sending tons of texts, calls, or messages on social media, even when you don't reply or say you're busy. 📱➡️🤯

👀 Showing Up Unexpectedly:

The client starts appearing at places you didn't tell them about, like near your home, your regular hangouts, or even your other job. 🚶➡️🏠

❓➡️🕵️ Asking Too Many Personal Questions:

The client gets really nosy about your private life, your family, or where you live, even though it's not part of your work.

🚫➡️😠 Ignoring "No" or "Stop":

You've told them you're not interested in seeing them again or that they're crossing a line, but they keep trying anyway.

😡 Angry or Upset When You Say No:

The client react badly when you turn them down or set boundaries, maybe getting mean or trying to make you feel guilty.

😠 Trying to Control You:

The client might try to tell you what to do, who you can see, or get jealous if you see other clients.

🎁➡️😬 Giving Unwanted Gifts:

The client keeps sending you gifts, even after you've asked them to stop. 1 It might seem nice, but it can be a way to try and control you or make you feel like you owe them something.

🚶‍♂️➡️👀 Following You:

You notice them watching you or seeing them in places you've been, even if it seems like a coincidence at first.

😨 Threatening Behavior:

The client says or does things that make you feel scared or unsafe. This is a huge red flag.

🛡️ What to Do If You Think a Client is Stalking You:

🚫 Be Clear and Firm:

Tell them directly and clearly (in writing if possible) that you do not want to see them anymore and that their behavior is making you uncomfortable. Keep it simple and don't leave any room for misunderstanding. "I am no longer available to see you. Please do not contact me again."

🚫 Stop All Contact:

Block their phone number, social media accounts, and any other way they can reach you. Don't reply to their messages, even if they try new ways to get in touch. Ignoring them completely takes away their power.

📝 Keep Records:

Save any messages, emails, voicemails, or notes about when and where they've tried to contact you or shown up. This can be important if you need to involve the police.

🗣️ Tell Someone You Trust:

Talk to a friend, family member, or another sex worker about what's happening. Having someone who knows can provide support and help you stay safe.

🔄 📆 Change Your Routine:

If you can, try to change your regular habits and routes to make it harder for them to find you.

🔒📹 Increase Your Security:

Think about ways to make your home or workspace safer, like changing locks, getting security cameras, or using a buddy system if you work with others.

📜 Consider a Restraining Order/Protection Order:

If the stalking is serious or you feel unsafe, talk to the police or a legal aid organization about getting a restraining order or protection order. This is a legal document that tells the person they can't come near you or contact you.

How to Keep Yourself Safe from Stalker Clients:

🤫 Personal Information Private:

Don't share your real name, address, phone number, or details about your personal life with clients. Use a separate phone number or app for work.

📬 Use a PO Box or Business Address:

If you need to receive mail for work, use a PO box or a business address instead of your home address.

👀 Be Cautious on Social Media:

Keep your work and personal social media accounts separate and be careful about what you share publicly on your personal accounts.

🤔➡️🚫 Trust Your Gut:

If a client makes you feel uneasy or gives you a bad feeling, even if they haven't done anything "wrong" yet, it's okay to end the interaction or refuse future bookings. Your intuition is often right.

Screen Clients:

If possible, try to screen new clients. Ask for information beforehand and see if anything feels off.

📍Let Someone Know Your Whereabouts:

If you're meeting a client, especially a new one, tell a friend or colleague where you're going and when you expect to be back. Share any identifying information about the client if you have it.

🆘 Have a Safety Plan:

Think about what you would do if a client becomes threatening or makes you uncomfortable. Have a code word with a friend or a way to discreetly ask for help.

Dealing with a stalker client can be scary, but remember that you have the right to safety and to be left alone after a professional interaction ends. Don't hesitate to seek help from friends, support organisations, or the police if you feel unsafe.

Local Laws:

Every country, city or town will have different laws sex workers must follow. Knowing the laws will help keep you and your client safe. Laws can be used to help back up your statements and add extra protection if something goes wrong.

Click here to find out.

Connect:

When possible reach out to a sex worker service. These are usually tailored to females however males may accepted too.

Note: Take advice from male sex workers closest to your age. Boomers etc usually provide outdated advice.

Talk:

When possible talk to someone with experience in sex work. Ask about dodgy clients and the red flags. What you are struggling with and what you are doing to cope.

Consent:

⚠️ Can Be Withdrawn at Any Time ⚠️

Legality: non-consensual sexual acts are considered assault, regardless of the context.

Safety: Protects sex workers from sexual assault and unwanted interactions.

Professionalism: Establishes clear boundaries and expectations in the transaction.

What is consent?

👍 Voluntary and Freely Given: Consent must be given willingly, without coercion, manipulation, or pressure

🤔 Informed: Individuals must have a clear understanding of what they are consenting to, including the specific acts, boundaries, and any associated risks. This requires open and honest communication between the sex worker and the client

✅ Specific: Consent to one act does not imply consent to another. Each desired interaction requires explicit agreement

😊 Enthusiastic Yes (Ideally)

🛑 Can Be Withdrawn at Any Time 🛑

🔞 Given by Adults with Capacity 🔞

If you or your client is overly intoxicated ie drunk, excessive drug use, or mentally unaware - consent can not be given.

⚠️ If in doubt stop immediately ⚠️

Medical Consent

Eg Severe Mental Health, Severe Mobility Issues

Some clients may require support to understand the information needed to make a decision about consent. This support could come from caregivers, advocates, or professionals who can help explain the situation in an accessible way. The final decision, however, must be the clients own, not the supporter's. The sex worker always can say no at anytime as well.

Note: If your client needs assistance to the room - always get the caregiver/helper to do this for you. This is for your own protection if something goes wrong.

🧑‍💼 Clients:

Never trust your client - no matter how nice, persuasive or the job they have. Help always comes with conditions

Clients must be aged 18 +

Prepare for any client to become a stalker. Do not give them personal information such as what your parents do, what school you went to, what location you live in.

Clients will always been seen as more reputable then you due to discrimination.

You may know your client when they arrive. This could be family friend, work mate, priest, politician, professor, local supermarket worker or someone about to die. If you know your client then best not to go through with the booking.

Do not share personal information with your client - they can become stalkers and use this information to harass you and intimidate you.

Choose Your Clients:

Only conduct business with clients you are comfortable with.

Males, females, trans women, trans males, cross dressers etc.

Supplies etc

Have your supply of condoms and water based lube.

Always have your own supply when possible.

Confidentiality:

Keeping what you do with a client usually is kept secret. Except from when discussing bad clients.

Most clients will want you to ignore them in public - especially when they are with their work mates or wife and kids.

Some clients will approach you. This is usually when they are at a bar. You can act dumb - or get a free drink up to you.

👮 Police:

The police should help you where sex work is legal. However like any profession there are people better at their jobs than other. It can be a mixed experience and they can treat you like your profession not a human.

Don't be afraid to ask for another police person. You can ask for a different gender or just another police person.

Relationships:

It can be tough when your job is male sex work, and it can sometimes make personal relationships tricky. People love to gossip about sex workers - most get outed. Here's why, in simple terms:

Finding a Partner Can Feel Harder 💔:

Stigma is Real: Some people have negative ideas about sex work and might not want to date someone who does it. They might worry about what their friends or family think. Example: A guy, Mark, really liked someone he met, but when he told her he was a sex worker, she stopped talking to him because she felt uncomfortable.

Trust Issues: Partners might worry about jealousy or feel insecure, even if you have clear boundaries between work and your personal life. Example: David's boyfriend sometimes got upset thinking about David being intimate with other people, even though it was just part of his job.

Different Worlds: Your work life can be very different from a "normal" job, and it might be hard for someone outside that world to fully understand. Example: Ben found it hard to explain his day to his partner because his experiences were so different from his partner's office job.

Fear of Judgment: You might be scared to tell potential partners what you do, which can make it hard to be open and honest, which is important in a relationship.

Impact on Family Can Be Tough 😔:

Worry and Shame: Family members might worry about your safety, health, and what other people think of you and the family. They might feel ashamed or embarrassed. Example: Michael's parents were very upset when they found out about his work and worried about him getting hurt or sick.

Misunderstandings: Families might not understand what male sex work is really like and have wrong ideas about it. This can lead to arguments and distance. Example: James's brother thought he was being exploited and didn't understand it was James's choice.

Keeping Secrets: You might feel like you have to hide your work from your family, which can make it hard to have close and honest relationships with them.

Important Things to Remember:

It's Not Your Fault: How others react is about their own beliefs and understanding, not about your worth as a person. It can be a filter of shitty friends.

Some People Will Accept You: There are people out there who will be open-minded and accepting of who you are and what you do.

Honesty (When Safe): If you feel safe and comfortable, being honest with partners and family can sometimes lead to understanding, but it's okay to protect yourself if you're worried about their reaction.

Boundaries are Key: Just like in your work, having clear boundaries in personal relationships is important for your well-being.

Finding love and having good family relationships can be harder as a male sex worker because of stigma and misunderstandings. However, it's still possible to build meaningful connections with people who accept you for who you are.

Know Your Body:

Note: These quick checks are not a substitute for regular, thorough self-exams and regular visits to a sexual health clinic or doctor. They are just an extra layer of awareness to help you stay on top of your body's health.

Make it a habit: A quick peek before and a gentle scan after – it's all part of looking out for yourself 👍

Why a Pre-Check?

Know Your Baseline: It helps you remember what your "normal" looks and feels like, so you're more likely to spot something new later. Notice any blood? How is your anus feeling?

Peace of Mind: Knowing you're starting the encounter feeling okay can give you more confidence.

Quick Look After 👀:

Gentle Scan: After the encounter, take a few moments (maybe when you're showering or getting changed) to gently look at the same areas: penis and groin area, anus, mouth, skin that had contact. Any blood?

Notice Anything New: Are there any new red marks, irritation, or anything that wasn't there before?

Information for Later: If you do notice something a few days later, having a mental note of what things looked like right after can be helpful information for a doctor.

What to Do If You See Something 🤔:

Don't Panic! Not every spot or bump is serious, but it's always best to be sure.

Don't Try to Treat It Yourself. Let a doctor or nurse take a look.

Go to a Clinic or Doctor: They can give you a proper check-up and tell you what's going on. Sexual health clinics are really good for this.

Be Honest: Tell the doctor or nurse about your work so they can give you the best advice and tests.

Taking care of your body is part of taking care of your business and your health! Regular checks help keep you and your clients safer.

Communication:

Clear and written communication is like having a solid foundation for your work. It builds trust, keeps things safe, and helps you run your business smoothly.

💯 Be Super Clear: Use simple words and don't leave anything open to guessing.

❓ Ask Questions Make sure the client understands what you've said and ask them if they have any questions too.

🎯 Confirm Details: Before meeting, quickly go over the important things like time, place, mandatory condom use, cost of service and what's agreed upon.

🌀 Trust Your Gut: If something feels off in the messages, it's okay to say no or ask for more information.

📓 Keep Records Safely: If you're keeping messages, make sure they're stored securely to protect your privacy.

💪 Proof is Power: Written words are like having a record. If there's ever a disagreement about what was planned, you can look back at your messages.

🙅‍♀️ No "He Said, She Said" : With texts, it's clearer what was actually said, avoiding misunderstandings later on.

🧠 Easy to Remember: You can go back and reread messages to refresh your memory about the booking details.

🤫 Good for Shy Talkers: Some people find it easier to be clear and upfront in writing than in a face-to-face chat.

Work Mates?

It's sad but true that sometimes, even within the sex work community, male sex workers can face tough situations with other workers. Here's a simple rundown:

Other Sex Workers Can Sometimes Be Unfair 😔:

🤥 Lying About Clients: Some might tell you they did things with a client that they didn't really do. This can make you feel pressured to do more than you're comfortable with, or it can just be dishonest and create bad vibes.

💸 Stealing When Times Are Tough: If another worker is having a slow day and you seem to be doing well, they might try to steal money or belongings from you. It's a really unfair thing to do.

😠 Jealousy When You're Busy: If you're getting a lot of clients and someone else isn't, they might get jealous and say mean or hurtful things to you. It's their own feelings, but it can still sting.

🔪 Cutting Remarks ("Hurt People Hurt"): Sometimes, people who are feeling bad about themselves might try to make you feel bad too by saying nasty things or putting you down. It's often true that people who are hurting inside can lash out at others.

Why This Happens (The "Hurt People Hurt" Idea):

The world of sex work can be tough. People might be dealing with stress, financial worries, stigma from society, or their own past hurts. When people are feeling down or insecure, they might act out in negative ways towards others, even their own colleagues. It doesn't make it right, but it can sometimes explain why these things happen.

How to Protect Yourself:

👉 Be Careful Who You Trust: Just like in any job, not everyone will be a good person. Take time to get to know people and be cautious about sharing too much too soon.

👉 Keep Your Belongings Safe: Don't leave money or valuables lying around where others can easily take them.

👉 Set Boundaries: If someone is being negative or dishonest, try to limit your interactions with them. You don't have to put up with bad behavior.

👉 Find Your Allies: Look for other workers who are supportive and trustworthy. Having a good network can make a big difference.

👉 Focus on Your Own Success: Don't let someone else's jealousy or negativity bring you down. Concentrate on doing your best.

It's a shame when people in the same community don't support each other. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect, even by other sex workers. If someone is making you feel unsafe or bad, it's okay to create distance

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Pimps! 🙅‍♂️⛓️ Your Freedom Matters!

A pimp is someone who tries to control sex workers and make money off them. They might seem helpful at first, but working for a pimp usually means you lose your freedom and a lot of your money. It can be like being trapped 😔.

Why It's Best to Avoid Pimps:

💸➡️🙅‍♂️ They Take Your Money: Pimps often take a big cut of what you earn, leaving you with much less.

😠 They Control You : They might tell you who you can see, what you have to do, and when you have to work. You lose control over your own life and body.

🚨 It Can Be Dangerous: Pimps can put you in risky situations and might not care about your safety.

👤➡️🚫 You Can Be Isolated: They might try to keep you away from friends and other support systems.

👮 It's Often Illegal: Pimping and profiting from someone else's sex work is against the law in many places.

Remember: You have the right to make your own choices about your work and your life. Working independently or with trusted colleagues is usually much safer and gives you more control and more of your earnings. Stay away from anyone who tries to control you or take advantage of you! 💪❤️

Keep it Clean

Always shower before seeing a client, unless the client has requested you not to.

Shower after each client.

Put a sheet down in case of a shitty situation

Always make a client shower before service begins - regardless of when they say the have last had one

You can always have a shower with the client to make sure they are cleaning themselves properly.