Safer Sex Safety Information
⚠️ It is the law is most countries that condoms are used for oral, vaginal & anal sex work.
🤝 Working with Caregivers|Helpers|Friends:
The Person Decides:
A caregiver, helper or friend cannot say "yes" or give consent for the another person.
They help explain how to medically safe throughout sex activities.
Only the person can say "yes" for their own body.
Hands Off:
If a person needs help getting into the room or onto the bed, ask the helper do it to lessening injury.
Do not lift the client yourself. This can easily cause a bruise or a fall.
Your Power:
You are the boss of your body. You can say "No" and end the sex at any time.
Consent:
Yes, No, Maybe?
🟢 What "Yes"/ Consent is:
Consent isn't just a word; it’s a feeling. A "Yes" only counts if it is:
Happy: They actually want to do it.
Sure: They aren't hesitating or "thinking about it."
Clear: They said the word "Yes" or gave a big thumbs up.
Specific: They said yes to this specific act, not everything on the menu.
⚠️ Can Be Withdrawn at Any Time
🔴 What "No" / Nonconsensual is:
If you see or hear any of these, Stop. It doesn't matter if they paid or if they said yes ten minutes ago.
Silence:
If they stop talking
look uncomfortable
don't answer you.
Pulling Away:
Moving their body away or
Pushing your hand.
The "Freeze":
If they go stiff or
"go quiet" like a statue.
Changing the Subject:
Trying to talk about something else to avoid the act.
"I'm Not Sure":
This is a No.
"Maybe" is also a No.
⚠️ Can Be Withdrawn at Any Time
🚫 When "Yes" is Impossible:
You cannot get a "Yes" or informed consent from someone who is:
❌ Too Drunk or High:
If they are:
slurring, stumbling, or "out of it."
❌ Asleep:
You can never get consent from someone sleeping.
❌ Confused:
If they don't understand what is happening due to a disability or mental health issue.
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⚠️ It is the law in most countries that condoms are used for oral, vaginal & anal for in-person sex work.
STIs|STDs|Viruses Safety & Use Information
⚠️ It is the law in most countries that condoms are used for oral, vaginal & anal for in-person sex work.
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Oral/Mouth Sex & Foreplay Safety Information
Safer Kissing & Mouth Information
In sex work/life, your mouth is a common place to get sick from. Keeping it healthy is just as important as using condoms.
Spit/Saliva Risks
Gonorrhoea:
Can be passed through deep, "wet/deep" kissing (tongue contact) even if no sex happens.
The bacteria live in the throat and travel through saliva.
Cold Sores (Herpes):
This is the most common risk.
If a client has a tingle or a visible sore on their lip, do not kiss them.
Syphilis:
✅ Visual Check:
Use your phone torch.
Look at the client’s lips and mouth before any kissing or oral sex starts.
❌ Brushing Teeth Before:
Do not brush or floss immediately before sex.
Brushing causes "micro-cuts" in your gums that make it much easier for STIs to enter your body.
Brush at least an hour before.
✅Mouthwash After Sex:
Use an alcohol-free mouthwash. It lowers the bacteria in your mouth without drying out the skin and causing cracks.
Your "Normal":
Check your own mouth often.
If a sore or red/white patch stays for more than 14 days, see a doctor or dentist immediately to rule out serious issues
⚠️ High-Risk (Highly Contagious)
These are the some of the conditions that can be passed easily between you and a another person during close contact.
Cold Sores
(Herpes / HSV-1):
📈 Status:
Very Common.
Most people will have this virus at some point.
☣️ Risk:
Extremely contagious. It passes through kissing
Oral sex. eg Blow jobs, rimming
If you have a cold sore and give oral sex, you can give the other person genital herpes.
Passing STI's to a client is a crime in most countries.
🚩Red Flag
Look for tingling, itching, or "weeping" blisters on or around the lips.
🤒 Treatment
There is no cure
Antivirals like Aciclovir or Valaciclovir can reduce outbreaks, lower the risk of passing it on, and help sores heal faster.
Harm Reduction:
No kissing
no oral sex eg blow job or rimming
If either person has a visible sore or feels a "tingle" coming on.
Oral HPV (Human Papillomavirus):
📈 Status:
Common via genital contact, but
Very rare via kissing.
☣️ Risk
A virus that can cause small, skin-coloured bumps (warts) in the mouth or throat.
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🤒 Treatment:
There is no cure for the virus itself, but most people's bodies clear it naturally over time.
Warts can be treated at a clinic.
Harm Reduction:
Use dental dams or condoms for oral sex. Dentists can provide dams.
Get the HPV Vaccine most sexual health clinics offer it for free or at a discount for sex workers.
🤕 Common Mouth Issues (Not STIs)
These are not sexually transmitted, but having open sores in your mouth makes it easier for other STIs (like HIV or Syphilis) to enter your bloodstream.
Painful white/grey ulcers inside the mouth.
Not contagious, but they are "open doors" for infections.
Cracked Corners (Angular Cheilitis):
Sore cracks at the corners of the mouth. Usually caused by moisture or vitamins, not sex.
Not contagious.
White patches on the tongue or cheeks.
Not typically passed by kissing, but it means your immune system is stressed or you are immunocompromised.
✅ Harmless Variations
These are not infections and are not contagious.
Small white/yellow bumps (oil glands) on the lips or cheeks.
A fuzzy-looking tongue, usually from smoking or poor oral hygiene.
A flat, dark freckle-like spot harmless.
A fluid-filled bump caused by biting the lip or trauma.
Hand Job | Masturbation Safety Information
🍆 Techniques and Sensitivity
Giving a safe handjob is about understanding:
Circumcised ("cut") penis
Uncircumcised ("uncut") penis
Each feel sensation differently.
⚠️ Safety & Health Information:
Some males have a tight foreskin that doesn't pull back easily.
❌ Never Force It:
Forcing a tight foreskin back can cause "paraphimosis" (where the skin gets stuck behind the head)
This is a medical emergency.
Stay Safe:
If it feels tight, do not try to retract it.
Focus your movements on the shaft and the skin itself.
If they show any signs of pain, stop immediately.
Wear gloves to clean up blood
Check for Sores:
As you apply lube do a visual check for any lumps, sores, or unusual discharge.
Hand Health:
Long or jagged fingernails can cause small cuts on the client.
Keep your nails short and smooth.
Fluid Exchange:
If the person "cums" in your hand, be mindful of "splash-back" near your eyes.
Use a towel or a condom if you want to avoid direct contact with semen.
Repetitive strain injury (RSI)
Change your speed or hand halfway throughout.
Switching to your "non-dominant" hand provides a different angle and sensation that can help.
🧴 The Basics for Both
✅ Lube is Safest:
Use plenty of water-based lubricant.
Silicon based lube is harder to remove
Friction burns can happen quickly, creating micro-tears that increase the risk of STIs for both of you.
🗣️Communication|Talk:
Ask about speed and pressure.
"Mate, do you like it firmer or lighter?"
Saves you effort and keeps them happy.
🧼 Cleanliness:
Always wash your hands before and after.
If you have any cuts or "hangnails" on your fingers, wear a glove or a condom on your finger
Prevent bacteria or fluids from entering your bloodstream.
✂️ Safely Working a Circumcised ("Cut") Penis.
Because the head (glans) is always exposed, it is often less sensitive to light touch but more prone to chafing.
Use lube:
Assists with up and down motion (Spit dries out quickly)
Shaft Pressure:
You can usually use a firmer grip on the shaft than with an uncut penis.
Use the Whole Hand:
Use your palm for broad pressure and your fingertips to focus on the underside of the head.
The Base:
Some nerve endings are concentrated at the base.
Touching the testicles or the area behind them with your other hand.
Varied Strokes:
Go up and down.
Use different speed of motion
Use twisting motions or "C-shape" grips with your thumb and forefinger.
🌯 Safely Working a Uncircumcised ("Uncut") Penis
The foreskin protects the head, keeping it extremely sensitive. The "gliding" motion of the skin is the main source of pleasure.
🐄 The "Milking" Stroke:
Use the foreskin to glide over the head
Make sure there is no pain.
You can gently pull the skin down while stroking up to create a "milking" sensation.
🪶 Start Light:
The head (glans) can be hypersensitive or even painful if touched directly with firm pressure.
Start with light circles or flicks around the "corona" (the ridge of the head).
💧 Lube Inside:
If the person likes the skin retracted (pulled back), apply a little lube directly to the head
Keep the movement smooth.
Anal| Bottom Fingering Safety Information
The anal area is highly sensitive but also fragile. Using the right protection and technique prevents injuries and keeps the session professional.
👆 The Setup
🧤 Use a Barrier:
Always wear a glove (latex or non-latex) or a finger cot.
"Shit happens" using a barrier keeps your hands clean and protects both you and the mate from bacteria and STIs.
💅 Short, Smooth Nails:
Long or jagged nails can easily tear the rectum, causing bleeding and a high risk of infection.
Stop if there is pain
🧴 Safety Lube:
Use plenty of water-based or silicon based lubricant.
The anus does not produce its own moisture, so you must keep it "slick" to avoid painful friction.
Anal tears make STI/HIV transmission more likely.
📥 Giving or Receiving:
☝️Start with One Finger
Always begin with a single, well-lubricated finger.
Let the muscles relax at their own pace.
Outside First:
Start by massaging the outside of the anus to help the mate relax before moving inside.
Check to see abnormal bumps, that could be genital warts
🐌 Go Slow:
Use gentle, small movements.
Sudden or aggressive stretching can cause the muscles to "clamp," which leads to pain and tearing.
🌀 The Motion:
Instead of just poking, use a gentle curling motion with your finger toward the front of the body (targeting the prostate area for extra pleasure).
Watch for "Stop" Signs: * Pain: If it hurts, stop immediately.
🩸Blood and/or 💩 Poo/Feces:
If you see any blood, stop. It means a tear has occurred.
If it happens. Stop, clean up, and change your glove.
Clean up and reassess the situation.
🗣️ Professional Communication
Check the Face:
Don't just listen to what they say; watch their expression.
If they look tense or like they are in pain, slow down.
Ask for Feedback:
"Does that pressure feel alright?"
"Should I stay there or move deeper?"
🩸 Handling Blood or 💩 Poo/Feces Safely Information:
If you see blood or poo/feces during sex, you must stop and clean you and the surfaces immediately. This is about infection control and health safety.
🩸 If You See Blood
Blood usually means a "fissure" (a small tear in the lining) has occurred.
1.Stop Immediately:
Do not continue any anal activity.
Remove your gloves or condom immediately.
Tell the person(s) involved
Moving against a tear will make it deeper and significantly increase the risk of HIV, Hepatitis, and other STIs.
2.Clean the Area:
Gently wipe the area with a clean, wet cloth or a fragrance-free wet wipe.
Do not use harsh soaps or alcohol.
3.Clean Yourself:
Wash your hands thoroughly with soap.
Shower if needed.
Each person should do this
💩 If Poo is Present
Poo/Feces contains bacteria (like E. coli) that can cause infections if spread to the mouth, urinary tract, or eyes.
Be Honest:
Try not to act grossed out. A simple "Let's take a quick break to freshen up" is enough.
Breathe through your mouth
Barrier Disposal:
Carefully peel off your glove or condom so the mess is trapped inside.
Dispose of it in a bin (ideally wrapped in tissue).
🚿 The Clean-Up:
If the person needs to clean up, let them use the bathroom.
If you need to clean a surface (like a bed or toy), use a 10% bleach solution or professional-grade disinfectant wipes.
🧼 Wash Your Hands:
Scrub your hands and under your fingernails. I
If you have fecal matter on your skin, wash twice.
🛡️ Infection Control Protocol
Wear glove when cleaning up the poo from surfaces.
Use a surface cleaning "bio-hazard" spray (available at most supermarkets) to kill bacteria if poo or waste gets on the bed
Change the sheets and check the area such as rug or sofa,
No "Cross-Contamination", if there has been fecal contact, do not move to oral sex or vaginal sex without a full shower and a change of all barriers (condoms/gloves).
🩹 Aftercare for Injuries
If a tear occurred:
💤 Rest the Area:
The person should avoid any anal play or
As well as douching for at least 3–7 days to let it heal.
🥵 Watch for Fever:
If they (or you) develop a fever or severe pain after a tear, it could be an infection.
Seek medical advice at a sexual health clinic.
🖐️ Check Your Own Hands:
If you weren't wearing a glove, check your hands for any small nicks or hangnails.
If you were exposed to blood, consider visiting a clinic to discuss PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis).
Vaginal Fingering Safety Information
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Parts of the Region:
⚠️ Always get clear 'yes' before any fingering beings
🗺️ Map
The Vulva (Outside):
This includes the labia (lips) and the clitoris.
Most pleasure comes from here, not just the inside.
The Clitoris:
Located at the top where the inner lips meet.
It is the most sensitive spot.
Start with indirect touch (through the "hood") before touching the tip directly.
The G-Area (G-Spot):
Located 1–2 inches inside the vagina on the front wall (the side towards the belly button).
It feels slightly ridged or "bumpy" compared to the rest of the vaginal wall.
Safety Preparation
🧼 Wash your hands and under your nails thoroughly before and after.
Bacteria from your hands can easily cause a Yeast Infection or Bacterial Vaginosis (BV) for the person.
🧤 Glove | Condom Use:
Always wear a glove (latex or non-latex) or finger cots. This protects your hands from STIs and prevents your skin/cuticles from being irritated by vaginal fluids.
💅 Nail Check:
Make sure your nails are short and perfectly smooth.
Even a tiny jagged edge can cause a "micro-tear" inside the vaginal wall, leading to pain and bleeding.
💧 Water-Based Lube:
✅ Always use a water-based lubricant.
❌ Avoid flavoured lube or oil-based lubes unless specifically requested, as these can cause irritation, yeast infections or allergic reaction. Seek medical help if this happens
📥 Technique: Go Slow, Stay Safe
Warm Up:
Don't go straight for the opening.
Start by stroking the inner thighs and the outer lips (labia) to build arousal and natural lubrication.
Always check for consent
The Entry:
Start with one well-lubricated finger.
Enter slowly and wait for the muscles to relax.
Never "finger bang" or use aggressive, jabbing motions, this causes tearing and harm.
Vary the Motion:
Use a mix of gentle curls (targeting the G-area)
Circular motions, and steady pressure.
The "Two-Hand" Approach:
Use one hand for internal work and the other to gently stimulate the clitoris or breasts.
🛑 When to Stop (Whenever Requested)
🩸Blood:
If you see any pink or red spotting, stop immediately.
Vaginal tissues can tear easily if the friction is too high or the nails are too long.
Pain/Discomfort:
If the client winces or pulls away, stop and ask: "Is that too much pressure, mate?"
Consent is fluid and can be withdrawn at any time.
Unusual Discharge:
If you notice a strong "fishy" odour or thick, cottage-cheese-like discharge, this could be an infection.
Use a glove and advise the client to get a health check.
⚠️ No Cross-Contamination:
Never go from the anus to the vagina with the same glove or finger.
This will cause a severe infection.
If you want to switch areas, you must change your glove and wash your hands.
Rimming (Tongue to Anus) Safety Information
Rimming involves oral contact with the anal area. Because the anus is home to digestive bacteria and parasites, this is a high-risk activity for gastrointestinal infections and certain STIs.
🛡️ Preparation
✅ Dental Dams:
It is a thin latex or polyurethane sheet.
It allows the client to feel the heat and pressure of your tongue while keeping your mouth away from bacteria.
Can buy at dentist surgeries
DIY Barriers:
If you don't have a dam, cut a non-lubricated condom down the side or
Use a large square of high-quality cling film (plastic wrap).
Vaccination:
Hepatitis A and B are easily spread through poo/fecal-oral contact.
Make sure you are fully vaccinated; most sexual health clinics provide these for free to workers.
🚿 Hygiene & Preparation
The person receiving should have recently showered
Inspect the area thoroughly as many people do not clean that area well
Douching:
douching helps with internal cleanliness, the skin around the hole still carries bacteria.
Always use a barrier regardless of douching.
After-Rim Clean:
After sex, use an antibacterial mouthwash
Wash your face and hands thoroughly with soap.
🤢 Health Risks:
Even a microscopic amount of poo/fecal matter can make you very ill.
A drug-resistant infection currently on the rise.
It causes severe, bloody diarrhoea, stomach cramps, and fever.
It spreads instantly via "poo/fecal-oral" contact.
A viral liver infection spread through contaminated poo/feces.
Intestinal Parasites:
Giardia and "Crypto" (Cryptosporidium) cause long-term stomach issues and are common risks in unprotected rimming.
STIs:
Herpes can all live on the skin around the anus.
Techniques:
Some people choose not to perform actual rimming. You can satisfy a client by simulating the sensation safely:
The Knuckle Method:
Apply plenty of spit or lube to your knuckle.
Use your tongue to make "lapping" sounds while moving your lubricated knuckle over their hole.
The Nose Tip:
Lower your head so the tip of your nose (which has no "opening" for bacteria) moves against the area
Clean your face throughly after
The "Spit & Slide":
Generously spit on the area and use your thumb to mimic the texture and movement of a tongue.
📋 Handling "Miss Shigella" (Infection Information )
If you "ate bum and have a sore tum," you must take action:
The 2 Week Rule:
If you get diarrhoea, wait two full weeks after your symptoms stop before returning to sex or work.
You can still be contagious even when you feel better.
Doctor Talk:
Most GPs won't test for Shigella automatically without you asking
Tell them: "I’ve had oral-anal contact and I need a stool sample tested specifically for Shigella and parasites."
Industry Insight
Most sex workers do not include rimming in their services
Because of the health risks, it is often treated as high risk.
"Rimming via dental dam only" saves you from awkward conversations during the booking.
Eating Out | Vaginal Oral Sex Safety Information
Performing oral sex (cunnilingus) on a woman or a trans man is a common activity, but it carries high risks for your throat.
In a sex work setting, you legally must use a dental dam while performing vaginal oral sex/easting out.
It protects your health and shows the person you are following the law and takes hygiene seriously.
Consent in the Moment
Check in with the person without breaking the "flow" of the session. Never assume consent.
1) Before You Start:
"I’m happy/ I want to go down on you, but I always use a dam for my safety and yours. Is that cool with you?"
2) During the Act:
"Does this speed feel good, or do you want me to focus more on another area?"
Body Language, If the person is tensing up or seems uncomfortable while you are performing oral, stop and ask.
Consent goes both ways; they must be a willing and comfortable participant for the session to be consensual..
3) Boundaries:
If a person tries to pull your head closer or remove the barrier, be firm: "I need to keep the dam in place to continue. Let's keep it safe so we can both enjoy this."
🧪 What’s in the Fluid?
Vaginal fluid is natural and it’s a delivery system for bacteria and viruses.
☣️ The Risk:
Your throat has a delicate lining that "soaks up" infections.
Even if the client looks clean, fluids can carry Chlamydia, Gonorrhoea, or even Hepatitis.
👃 The Smell Factor:
If it smells strong or looks unusual (like cottage cheese), there is may be an active infection.
A dam acts as your shield against this, but stopping minimises risk.
⚠️ Use a Dam
In sex work, you see multiple people. Without a barrier, you are at high risk for:
1.Throat STIs/STDs:
Chlamydia and Gonorrhoea in the throat often have no symptoms,
you could pass them to other people without knowing, which is against the law in most countries.
2.HPV & Cancer:
Oral HPV is a leading cause of throat and neck cancer.
Using a dam is the only way to block skin-to-skin transmission.
3.Gastro Infections:
Tiny amounts of poo/fecal matter (even from a "clean" person) can cause Shigella or Hepatitis A,
It will make you violently ill.
🛡️ How to Use a Dam
Place the latex or polyurethane sheet over the vulva.
Ask the person for consent and if the application feels comfortable.
You lick the sheet, not the skin.
Do not brush your teeth right before a booking.
It creates micro-cuts in your gums. If fluid gets around the dam and hits those cuts, you are at risk.
Use mouthwash instead.
Sensation Info:
Put a single drop of water-based lube on the persons side of the dam. This helps the sheet "stick" to the clitoris, allowing the heat and vibration of your tongue to pass through perfectly
Target the clit area, 90% of the pleasure is in the clitoris (the little nub at the top). Focus your tongue there through the dam. The "seal" created by the dam actually intensifies the suction.
Use your fingers (wearing gloves) to spread the labia under the dam. This pulls the skin taut and makes your tongue work more effectively.
🚿 Clean Up
Discard Used Dam Immediately: Wrap in tissue and put in bin.
Rinse mouth with an alcohol-free mouthwash immediately after the session
⚠️ When you go for your check-up, you must tell the nurse you perform oral sex and need a throat swab. A standard urine test will miss throat infections every time.
🗺️ Parts of the Region
Blow Job | Penis Oral Sex Safety Information
⚠️ Condoms are a legal requirement for oral sex in in-person sex work.
Oral sex involves using your lips, tongue, and throat. While often seen as "low risk," it is the most common way sex workers contract STIs like Syphilis, Gonorrhoea, and Chlamydia.
Using a condom for oral sex is a legal requirement for sex workers.
It is the only way to effectively block STIs.
Do not use your mouth, your teeth or jewellery to put the condom on the person. (Sex worker organisation red flag eg NZPC)
It can easily tear the latex, and it exposes you to pre-cum before the barrier is even on.
Use a flavoured, water-based lubricant on the outside of the condom to mask the taste of latex and make the experience better for the person.
🧪 Managing Cum (Harm Reduction)
If you are working without a condom, cum/ejaculation management plan.
👁️ Visual Inspection:
Look for sores, warts, or any discharge (drip) from the tip.
If you see anything, do not perform oral.
Spit or Swallow?
If a person ejaculates/cum in your mouth, consent must be asked and confirmed before do it
Stomach acids are highly effective at neutralising many bacteria and viruses.
Spitting can actually rub the fluids into your gums or the "pockets" around your teeth, increasing the risk of infection.
The longer semen stays in your mouth, the higher the risk. Swallow or spit quickly.
Techniques & Body Control
The "Straight Line":
If you are deep-throating, keep your head and neck in a straight line to open the airway.
It cause damage to the back of your throat
Control:
Breathe deeply through your nose. If you feel "stuffed up," slow down the pace or pull back.
Keep your eyes open. This helps you stay present and aware of the persons movements.
Avoid "Face-Fucking" where the client controls your head.
If a person gets too aggressive, pull back and reset the boundary.
If either person says STOP, do it.
Shallow:
Use your tongue primarily on the head (glans) while using your hand to stroke the base.
This makes the person feel like you are going deeper than you actually are.
You don't need to go deep to be good. Most the nerves are in the head of the penis. Focus on a rhythm that allows you to take full breaths.
🦷 No Teeth:
Keep your lips tucked over your teeth.
Teeth cause "micro-abrasions" on the penis and can break a condom.
🥀 Erection & Performance Issues
Males often struggle with erections due to nerves, alcohol, or substances like "poppers."
Gently massage the base of the penis or the testicles to encourage blood flow.
If agreed upon/with clear consent, gentle anal fingering can help stimulate an erection.
If they can't get erect/hard, there are "arousing" things such as talk or other touch to help satisfy
Vomit (Gag Reflex):
The "gag reflex" is a natural protection for your throat. Sometimes, it can lead to vomiting. If this happens:
1. Stop and Turn Away:
As soon as you feel the "heave," pull back and turn your head away from the person.
2. Use warm water to rinse your mouth and face.
❌ Do not brush your teeth immediately after vomiting
The stomach acid softens your enamel and brushing will damage it.
Rinse with water or an alcohol-free mouthwash instead.
Vomit contains stomach acid
Can cause "micro-abrasions" (tiny cuts) in your mouth and throat.
This makes you much more vulnerable to STIs and HIV if you continue.
3.Stop the Oral Sex
ideally end any contact with your mouth .
The risk of infection is at its highest when your throat lining is irritated by acid.
🧼 After Oral
❌ Do not brush or floss your teeth immediately before or after a booking.
Brushing creates tiny cuts in your gums.
If infected fluid hits those cuts, STIs have a direct path into your blood.
Mouthwash & Hydration:
Use a mouthwash after oral sex.
Keep your mouth hydrated by drinking water;
A dry mouth has less protective saliva and tears more easily.
Body Contact:
Try not to rest your face or chin directly on the person's testicles or thighs, as these areas often host Pubic Lice (Crabs) or Herpes skin infections.
The Throat Swab
Standard STI tests (urine samples) do not check your throat.
If you are performing oral sex, you must explicitly ask the clinic for an extra genital throat swab.
You can have a raging Gonorrhoea infection in your throat with zero symptoms
Douching Before Anal Sex & Activity Safety Information
Step-by-Step Guide
Prepare Your Douche:
Make sure your bulb or bottle is clean.
Wash it with mild soap and rinse it well before you start.
Fill Bulb Up:
Use cool or room-temperature water.
You only need a small amount
Half or less in the bulb is enough.
Lube the Tip of Douche:
Put water-based lube on the nozzle.
Never insert it dry;
Dry bulb can cause small cuts that can let in infections.
Position:
Squat over the toilet or stand in the shower with one leg up.
Stay relaxed and breathe.
Insert Tip Slowly:
Gently slide the nozzle in just a few inches/centimetres .
Do not force it.
Squeeze Gently:
Release the water slowly.
If you feel a "sharp" pressure, stop immediately.
Release:
Let the water out into the toilet or shower.
You don't need to hold it in.
Repeat (Sparingly):
Repeat until the water comes out mostly clear.
Usually, 2–3 times is enough.
Clean Up:
Wash your device thoroughly after use and let it air dry.
Store in dry and cool space.
Bottoming |Receiving Anal Sex Safety information
⚠️ It is the law in most countries that a condom and safety procedures are taken (using lube reduces STI/Viruses transmission).
The anus has no natural moisture and is home to a sensitive lining that can tear easily.
Safe bottoming is about control, lubrication, and protection.
Porn is not reality.
In real life, the first few minutes of anal sex must be very slow. Tell the person:
"I need you to go slow while I adjust."
"It's painful, stop"
💧 Lubrication
Since the anus doesn't get wet on its own, you must provide the moisture.
✅ Water-Based Lube:
Less people allergic to water based lubricant, making it safer to use when doing sex work
Easier to remove then silicon based lubricant
✅ Silicon-Based Lube & Hybrid Lube
Some people have allergies to silicon and other ingredients added
Harder to remove from skin if over applied
Longer lasting than water-based
Check for allergies and people who have not used before
✅ More is More:
Use more lube than you think you on the outside of the condom and anus need.
Apply it to yourself and the penis/toy.
Ask for more when needed
If itching or irritation occurs from lube or condom stop.
Rectum Health
The lining of the rectum is very thin and absorbs viruses (like HIV, Chlamydia, and Syphilis) much faster than other parts of the body.
Stealthing | Taking Condom Off :
If a person removes the condom without your permission, this is a crime.
Check the condom often by reaching back and feeling the base of the penis.
Change the condom if you havr any doubt about damage
Anus to Mouth
Even a "clean" anus contains microscopic particles of poo/feces. This is the primary way people contract
Shigella causes violent vomiting and diarrhoea.
Severe gastrointestinal infections.
Clean the penis thoroughly with mild soap before switching to oral sex.
❌ Do not let a penis or toy go from your anus to your vagina without a full wash or a fresh condom.
This prevents the transfer of gut bacteria that causes painful infections.
🏗️ Starting the Entry (Control)
You are the boss of the pace. Use these techniques to stay comfortable:
As the person enters, exhale slowly and "push down" as if you are having a bowel movement.
This naturally relaxes the external sphincter and makes entry easier.
🖐️ Hand Control:
Use your own hand to guide the persons penis in.
This allows you to set the angle and ensure the condom is on correctly.
Check to see condom is on to the base of the penis
On Top Position:
Being on top is the safest position for person receiving anal/bottoming.
It gives control over the depth and speed of the thrusting.
Stop if you feel pain
🍑Using Toys Safely
If the sex involves toys:
Clean and undamaged toy/dildo
Only use toys designed for anal use. These have a wide "disk" or "flared base" at the bottom.
Without a base, the anal muscles can "swallow" a toy into the rectum.
Clean the toy/dildo the area the toy/dildo was used.
⚠️ If the toy/dildo gets swallowed by the anus/rectum:
squat and try to push it out.
If you can't, go to the Emergency Room. Don't be embarrassed; doctors see this often.
💩 Hygiene & "Shit Happens"
The rectum is where poo is stored. If you haven't pooped recently, the lower part of the intestine is usually empty, but small "remnants" are normal.
Washing the body in full wash with soap and water is usually enough.
Check again after the shower
🚿 Enema/Douching:
Don't over-douche. 1- 3 times should be enough
Doing it too often removes healthy bacteria and can irritate the lining, making you more likely to tear.
🛑 If it hurts or you feel pain, STOP.
Pain is a warning that a tear is starting.
Bottoming should feel like pressure, not sharp pain.
🩸 Bleeding:
A tiny spot of blood can happen,
if it’s more than a spot, stop the session.
😞 Broken Condom:
If the condom breaks, stop.
Wash the area and consider PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis) and Doxy-PEP
😤 Stuck Condom:
If the condom slips off inside you, relax.
Squat down and push gently like you’re pooping.
If it won't come out, see a nurse or doctor.
Topping |Giving Anal Sex Safety Information
When you are the person giving, you must make sure the other person is happy to continue. Consent is not just a "maybe"—it must be a clear "Yes." You can find this out by listening to their words and watching their body.
✅ Clear Consent is a "Yes"
Listen for a clear "Yes". Only start if the person says it in the sex work.
"Yes," "I like that,"
"Keep going."
If they are silent, unsure, or say "I guess so," they are not giving clear consent. Stop and ask them how they feel for clarification.
Ask at every step:
Permission for one thing is not permission for everything.
"Can I touch you here?"
"Can I use a finger now?"
"Are you ready for me to slowly enter with my penis/dick (or toy)?"
🔍 Reading Body Language
If a person’s body tells you they are uncomfortable even if they haven't said "stop." Watch for these signs:
Tensing up:
If their buttocks or legs get stiff, they are not relaxed enough for anal sex or activity.
Holding breath:
If the person stops breathing or takes shallow breaths, they might be in pain or nervous.
Pulling away:
If they move their hips away from you, stop immediately.
Facial expressions:
Watch for wincing, gritting teeth, or closing eyes tightly. This usually means it hurts.
A Safe Way to Start
Prepare Condoms:
Tear open packets with your fingers
Open multiple packets so easier when your condom needs changing
Ask About lube:
If it is the first time, water-based lube reduces the risk of irritation and allergic reaction
If there is any pain or discomfort stop and rinse of with water.
Use a finger first:
Always ask: "Can I use a finger to begin ?"
Use plenty of lube on a gloved finger
Move slowly.
Use your hand to guide entry:
When the person is ready for the penis or toy, hold your penis with your hand to guide the tip in . This gives you better control.
Squat over the person: This position lets you see their face and body clearly so you can check their reactions.
Go very slowly, Only put the tip in at first. Move slowly to let their body adjust.
Stop if the person receiving penetration is in pain.
🗣️ Check-Ins
Keep the conversation going with simple questions.
If the answer isn't a clear "Yes," stop.
"Are you still comfortable?"
"Does this feel okay?"
"Do you want me to keep going?"
Butt| Anus | Rectum Health Information
Managing the health of the butt( anus and rectum) require a person to manage the health before, during and after anal sex. It is normal to say ' My butt is not up to it not today'.
🚿 How to Clean Your Butt:
Step 1:
Use lukewarm water
Do not use hot water can dry out or burn the skin.
Step 2:
Apply a fragrance-free | PH neutral body wash or soap using only your fingers.
Do not use loofa or wash clothe as you can get E. coli bacteria
Step 3:
Rinse thoroughly to ensure no soap residue is left in the skin folds.
Step 4:
Pat dry with a soft, clean towel.
Do not wipe or rub.
Check towel for blood or poo marks.
💩 How to Wipe after Poo
When you have a penis and scrotum, wiping correctly is about more than just getting clean. It is about preventing the spread of bacteria to the urinary tract and keeping the skin healthy for sex.
✅ "Front to Back"
Always wipe from the front (the side near the scrotum) to the back (the side near the tailbone).
🚫 The Danger of Over-Wiping
Males often have more hair in the anal area.
Wiping too hard with dry paper can tug on these hairs and cause folliculitis (inflamed hair follicles) or tiny sores.
Wiping until the paper is "spotless" often means you have wiped away the protective layer of your skin. This makes the area sting when you sweat or when you use lube during sex.
🧻 The Wipe
If you have a lot of hair or sensitive skin, dry paper is sometimes isn't not enough.
💧Dampen the Paper:
Use a little warm water on your toilet paper for the final wipe.
It is gentler and cleans better than dry toilet paper.
✅ Pat, Don't Rub
✅ Use a soft surface toilet paper and apply gentle pressure and press it gently against the skin.
❌ Do not move the paper or towel up and down or side to side.
☝️ Hold for a Moment:
Let the toilet paper soak up the moisture and poo/fecal matter.
🔁 Repeat:
If you are still damp or there is a lot of poo/fecal matter, press again with new toilet paper until the area is dry
A tiny bit of poo/fecal matter is okay, if this the case, have a shower
Pubic Hair:
Shaving causes "razor bumps" and ingrown hairs.
⚠️ Do not use scented sprays or deodorants on your "butt" or scrotum. These chemicals are very harsh and can cause a red, itchy rash
⚠️Do not use Genital Desensitisers for sex work.
🔎 Check the area:
Use a mirror to check for any new lumps, sores, or red patches.
If you see a painful cut (a fissure) or a swollen vein (a haemorrhoid), it is best to avoid anal sex until it heals.
🥦 Eat Food with Fibre:
Eating things like oats, fruit, and vegetables keeps your stools soft.
This lessens straining on the toilet, which helps keep the area healthy and free of lumps.
💧 Stay hydrated:
Drinking water keeps the lining of the rectum healthy and less likely to tear.
🧼 Wash Area Gently:
Use warm water and a mild/sensitive soap/body wash on the outside.
Do not use a loofa or wash clothe
Avoid using harsh chemicals or perfumes, as these can irritate the skin before you even start.
❌ Avoid Douching Too Much:
If you choose to use an enema or a douche, do not do it too often.
Rinsing the inside too much can dry out the lining and remove the "good" bacteria that protect you.
Anal douching no more than once per day and no more than 2-3 days a week.
🛁 After Anal Sex
Gently wash with warm water to remove any leftover lube or sweat.
Pat the area dry with a soft towel; do not rub it, as the skin may be sensitive.
Check for changes. It is normal for the area to feel a bit "full" or sensitive, but look for any sharp pain or a lot of bleeding.
Rest the area. If you have are having a lot of sex, try to give your bottom a "day off" to let the tissues recover.
🧪 Get Tested:
Since many infections in the rectum have no symptoms
Get a regular check-up. Always ask for a rectal swab specifically.
👨⚕️ Vaccinations:
These are very important for anyone who has anal sex.
Ask a doctor about the HPV vaccine (to prevent warts) and
Hepatitis A vaccine
⚠️ It is always safest to stop if you feel pain. However, if you do choose to carry on, follow these harm reduction steps to stay as comfortable as possible.
💧 Use Water-Based Lubricant
Lower Allergy Risk:
Water-based lubes are less likely to contain the thickeners or chemicals found in some silicone or hybrid lubes that can sting sensitive skin.
Easier to Wash Off:
After the sex, water-based lube can be rinsed away easily with just water, preventing it from sitting on and irritating the skin further.
Glycerin-Free:
Try to find a water-based lube that is "glycerin-free" and "paraben-free," as these ingredients can sometimes cause a stinging feeling on delicate skin.
Check the Condom Material:
Sometimes irritation is actually a mild latex allergy.
Wear loose clothing:
Avoid tight underwear or trousers for a few hours to let the skin breathe.
Insertive Sex Toy Safety & Cleaning Information
Sex toys aren't regulated like medical devices, you must be the check on what is safe for your body.
⚠️ To reduce STI and Virus transmission always use a condom over your sex toys when invovled in sex work.
☝️ Choosing Your Materials
The material of a toy determines how clean it actually is. We categorise toys into two groups:
❌ 🧽 1. Non-Absorbent Object or Toy
They reduce risk as they have a solid, smooth surface that does not trap bacteria, viruses, or old fluids.
🖐️ 🧼 Hand Wash:
They can be fully disinfected, boiled with less risk of damage.
HOnly: Use your clean hands to wash toys with warm water and a mild, fragrance-free body wash or soap.
Air dry when possible
2. Absorbent / Porous (Higher Risk)
Porous materials have thousands of microscopic holes (like a sponge).
⚠️ They soak up bacteria and "biofilms" that cannot be washed away with soap.
❌ Materials like:
Jelly
PVC
Rubber
Latex
These toys often contain Phthalates, which are chemicals that can get into your body and may be harmful over time.
🚫 Avoid
⚠️ Silicone-based lube will melt silicone sex toys.
✅ To keep your sex toy in good condition and it stays non-absorbent, always use a water-based lubricant.
❌ Do NOT use the following as insertion/sex toys:
🥕🥒 Fruit & Vegetables | Food:
They can snap off inside the body
They carry soil-based bacteria.
🫙🍾Glass Jars Bottle
Standard glass is not "shatter-proof" like Pyrex.
Natural Suction can also cause a vacuum, making them impossible to remove safely.
Example photos here
Hairbrush Handles | 🪥 Dumbell(s) | 🪥🪥 Electric Toothbrushes:
Often made of cheap, absorbent plastics and lack a flared base.
Not designed for internal use; the vibration mechanisms can pinch delicate tissue.
Example photo here
Healthline Removal Info
🔍 Check & Use your toys before and after every single use.
1. 👁️ Before Use:
Run your finger over the surface. If you feel any nicks, scratches, or sharp seams, do not use it.
These tiny jagged edges cause "micro-tears" in the skin that let STIs enter your system more easily.
2. Wide Base Check:
For anal toys, make sure the "flared base" is solid and not cracked.
A weak base can snap, causing serious injury and medical assistance.
3.✅ Get Clear Consent
Never introduce a toy into a session without asking first. Even if you have already had sex, using a tool changes the dynamic.
Ask clearly: "I’d like to use this [dildo/vibrator] now. Is that okay with you?"
Show the toy/objectLet them see what it is and how it works.
Uncertainty can cause a person to tense up, which makes injury more likely.
Set the "Stop" signal. Remind them that they can say "stop" or "change" at any second, even if they initially said yes
4.💧A lot of Water-based lubricant
Any toy used for anal play must be accompanied by generous amounts of water-based lubricant to prevent tissue tearing.
Silicon-based lube melts/destroys silicon sex toys causing injury
5.🗣️ Talk to Each other
Because toys can be more powerful or less flexible than fingers or a penis, you must get constant feedback.
Watch for "Non-Verbal" No’s: watch for tensing, holding breath, or pulling away. If you see this, stop.
Every minute or so, ask for a verbal check-in:
"How does this speed feel?"
"Is the pressure okay, or should I go lighter?"
"Does that feel good, or do you want to switch positions?"
5. 🧼 Wash After Use:
While cleaning, check for stickiness.
If a silicone toy feels tacky or gummy, the material is breaking down and leaking chemicals. It is no longer safe - throw it away.
More information here
📚 References
WebMD (2024): Confirms that non-absorbent materials are the only way to ensure 100% sanitisation.
How to put Condom
Uncut/Foreskin
If you or your client, have a foreskin (hooded), the goal is to get the condom on securely without trapping air or hurting yourself or your client.
⚠️ Always store condoms in a cool dry place. DO NOT store in your wallet or pocket as more likely to break.
✅ Step 1:
Prep the Condom
🗓️ Check the expiry date:
If it is expired, can not see the date bin it.
💨 Check for air:
Squeeze the packet. If it doesn't feel like a little pillow, it might have a hole.
🐌 Open with care:
Use dry fingers. Never use teeth or scissors, as a tiny nick will make the condom snap later.
👁️ Check the roll:
Make sure the "ring" is on the outside so it can roll down.
✅ Step 2:
The "Natural" Fit
😫 Don't force it:
If the foreskin is tight, do not pull it back by force. It can cause pain or swelling.
🤏 Pinch the tip:
Leave a little space at the top and squeeze the air out. This stops the condom from popping during sex.
💧 The "One Drop" trick:
Put one small drop of water-based lube inside the tip to help it slide over the head.
✅ Step 3:
Rolling it On
Roll over the top:
Place the condom on the head of the penis.
⬇ Smooth it down:
Gently roll the condom down the shaft. Your foreskin will naturally move down with the condom as you go.
💯 Cover everything:
Ensure the condom goes all the way to the base of the penis.
⚠️ General Important Points:
🆕 New Condom Every Action, Everytime.
⏱️ Put it On Before Any Contact.
💦 Use a small amount of water-Based or silicone Lube.
❌ If it Feels Wrong or hurts, Start Again.
✊ Hold the Base When Withdrawing.
🗑️ Wrap in a tissue and bin it after use. NEVER down the toilet.
How to put on a Condom on Tight Foreskins| Phimosis
If your foreskin is tight and does not pull back (Phimosis), you must be extra careful. Forcing the skin back can cause a medical emergency.
⚠️ Always store condoms in a cool dry place. DO NOT store in your wallet or pocket as more likely to break.
⚠️ Anal sex creates a lot of friction. If your foreskin is tight, there is a higher risk of skin tears and condom failure during anal sex.
🛑 NEVER Force the Skin
What it looks like:
If you try to pull the skin back and it looks like a tight "ring" or "choke-hold" around the head of the penis, stop immediately.
The Risk:
If you force a tight foreskin back, it can get stuck. This can cut off blood flow and may require a hospital visit.
If it tears:
If the skin rips or bleeds, stop all sexual activity. Wash gently with warm water, do not use soap on the tear, and see a doctor. Rips make it much easier to catch or pass on HIV and STIs.
✅ How to Apply Safely
Leave the skin forward:
Keep the foreskin covering the head of the penis.
Pinch the tip: Squeeze the air out of the top of the condom to leave room for fluid.
The "Slide" Trick:
Put one drop of water-based lube inside the tip of the condom. This stops the condom from "dragging" or pulling on your skin.
Roll over the top:
Place the condom on the head and roll it down over the foreskin. The condom should feel snug but not painful.
⚠️ Safety Info
Lube is your friend:
Use plenty of water-based lube on the outside of the condom too. This reduces the "tugging" feeling on your foreskin during sex.
Check the fit:
If the condom feels like it is strangling the penis, it is too small. Try a "Large" or "Comfort Fit" brand.
After sex:
Hold the condom at the base when you pull out. If the skin has moved, gently slide it back to its natural position.
How to put on a Condom on a Cut | Circumcised Penis
Putting a condom on a cut penis is straightforward, but you must make sure there is no air trapped at the top to prevent the condom from breaking.
⚠️ Always store condoms in a cool dry place. DO NOT store in your wallet or pocket as more likely to break.
1. Prep the Condom
Check the pack:
Check it is in date and
has air inside/No holes
Open safely:
Use your fingers to tear the edge.
Never use teeth or scissors.
Check the roll:
The ring is on the outside so it can roll down easily.
2. The Fit & Comfort
Pinch the tip:
Use your thumb and finger to squeeze the air out of the very top.
It leaves space for fluid so the condom doesn't pop/break.
Position:
Place the rolled condom directly onto the head of the hard penis while keeping the tip pinched.
3. Rolling Down
Roll to the base:
Use other hand to roll the ring all the way down the shaft until it reaches the hair at the bottom.
Smooth it out:
Rub your hand down the shaft to get rid of any air bubbles.
Add Lube:
Put water-based or silicone lube on the outside to make sex more comfortable and cause less tears
Safety Info
New Condom:
Use a new condom:
every time you change acts
or partners
or unsure.
Before touch:
Put it on before any skin-to-skin contact to prevent STIs.
If it feels wrong:
If it feels too tight, or if you put it on inside out, throw it away and start again with a new one.
The Pull-Out:
Hold the condom at the bottom (against your body) when you pull out so it doesn't slip off.
Using a tissue can help with fluids
Bin it:
Wrap the used condom in tissue and put it in the bin. Do not flush it.
⚠️ Store in a cool dry place for no Damage: Make sure the package isn't damaged.
👍 Internal condoms are latex free.
❌ No Double Condoms. Don't use an internal and external condom together.
1. Prep
Check:
Check the the date, so it isn't expired
The packet is not damaged and had air in it.
Open:
Use your Lube free fingers.
Do not use teeth
Do not use scissors.
2. The Setup
Remove the inner ring:
Squeeze the loose ring inside and pull it out, you do not need it for anal sex.
Lube:
Add plenty of water-based or silicone lube to the inside of the condom
the outside of the condom
3. Insertion
Nail Check:
Make sure the finger you use to push the condom in has a short, smooth nail to avoid internal scratches.
Push in:
Use your finger to push the closed end of the condom into the anus.
Outer Ring:
The large, open ring must stay outside the body. It should lay flat against the skin.
4. During Sex
Guide it in:
Use your hand to guide the penis or toy into the centre of the condom.
Stop if it slips:
If the penis goes between the condom and the skin, or if the outer ring is pushed inside, stop and fix it.
5. Removal & Disposal
Twist:
Twist the outer ring to keep the fluid inside.
Pull:
Gently pull the condom out.
Bin it:
Wrap it in tissue and put it in the bin. Never reuse it.
How to use Internal Condoms for Anal & Vaginal Information
Flavoured Condoms:
These are designed specifically for oral sex/blowjobs
They contain sugars or sweeteners to make them taste better.
Do not put on with your mouth
❌ Never use flavoured condoms for anal or vaginal sex.
The sugars can cause yeast infections (thrush) or mess with the natural pH balance.
Some people are sensitive to the flavouring agents, which can cause itching or a rash.
Dental Dams
Oral-anal contact/Rimming or
Oral Vaginal going down/eating out
Barrier Against:
Bodily Fluids poo/shit/ feces, pre-cum, vaginal fluids, blood) that can carry STIs and bacteria.
Proper Coverage:
When used correctly, a dental dam should fully cover the vulva or anus, providing a protective layer during oral contact.
DIY from Condoms:
A dental dam can be made by carefully cutting off the tip and base of a non-lubricated condom and then slicing it lengthwise to create a flat sheet of latex.
STIs/STDs Possible from Oral Sex
1. Common Infections of the Throat (Pharyngeal)
If a man performs oral sex on a partner's genitals or anus, he can acquire these infections in his throat, tap for more info.
2. Common Infections of the Penis (Urethral/Genital)
If a man receives oral sex from a partner with an oral infection, he can acquire these on his genitals:
3. "Gut" or Enteric Infections (Fecal-Oral)
If a man performs oral sex on a partner's anal area (rimming), he is at risk of "enteric" infections caused by bacteria or parasites:
4. Low-Risk Infections
HIV
Hepatitis B & C
Latex Condom Allergies|Non latex Options Information
A latex allergy is a reaction to the proteins found in natural rubber.
About 4% of people have this allergy
it can be developed over time through repeated exposure.
🚩 How to Spot a Reaction
Symptoms usually appear within minutes, but some "delayed" rashes can show up 1 to 2 days later.
Mild Signs: Itching, redness, or a small rash where the condom touched the skin.
Moderate Signs: Sneezing, runny nose, itchy eyes, or a "scratchy" throat (similar to hay fever).
Severe Signs (Anaphylaxis): Difficulty breathing, swelling of the tongue or throat, and feeling dizzy. This is a medical emergency
🛡️ Non-Latex Options:
Type: Polyisoprene
Brand: E.g., SKYN
Lube Options: Water based Lube
Type: Polyurethane
Brand: E.g. Trojan Supra)
Lube Options: Water based/Silicon Lube
Type: Internal Condoms
Brand: E.g. Femidom
Lube Options: Water based/Silicon Lube
⚠️ Talk to medical professionals for advice and questions.
Water & Silicon Lube Basic Safety Information
✅ Use Water-Based Lube:
Using water based lubricant can minimises the risk of allergic reaction.
If you using a silicon based use less.
Do not use oil based lube:
❌ Petroleum Jelly (Vaseline)
❌ Baby Oil
❌ Coconut Oil
❌ Olive Oil/Other Vegetable Oils
❌ Massage cream/oil
These kinds of lube can make condoms break more easily.
Silicon can be also safe - but lasts a lot longer and harder to get of the penis when too much is applied putting on a condom.
⚠️ Safety Information
❌ Client Lube Can Be Risky:
Things can be added you don't know about, like things that burn (like deep heat).
❌ Lube on a Dry Penis = Bad:
When not using a pre-lubed condom - apply a pea sized amount of water based lube. Putting a condom on a dry penis can make it break
🌸 Vaginal Sex
When working with female clients, a safe, respectful, and professional approach is key. It's about ensuring both you and your client feel comfortable and valued throughout the session.
🥇 Start with Clear Communication
❓ Ask what she wants:
Be direct but respectful.
“What are you hoping for today?” or “Anything specific you enjoy or want to avoid?”
🚧 Clarify boundaries:
What’s on the table? What’s not? Talk about kissing, oral, penetration, toys, etc.
🤝 Consent goes both ways:
You have the right to say no to anything you're not comfortable with.
💯 Consent is Everything, Always
✅ Always Ask, Never Assume:
Before any sexual activity, always get clear permission. This means asking questions like, "Is this okay?" or "Are you comfortable with this?"
✨ Enthusiastic Consent:
Look for a clear "yes," not just a hesitant nod. Consent should be enthusiastic and freely given.
🔄 Consent Can Change:
A person can change their mind at any point, even if they said yes before. If they say "stop" or seem uncomfortable, you must stop immediately.
🚫 No "Surprises":
Never do anything unexpected. If you want to try something new, ask first.
🧠 Impairment Matters:
If you or your client are very drunk or high, genuine consent cannot be given. If there's any doubt about someone's ability to consent, do not proceed.
🔑 Clear Communication is Key
🗣️ Talk Throughout:
Don't just talk at the beginning. Keep checking in during the session. Ask "How does this feel?" or "Do you like this pace?"
👂 Listen Actively:
Pay close attention to her words, tone of voice, and body language. If she seems unsure, ask directly.
📝 Use Clear Language:
Speak clearly and simply. Make sure your client understands what you're asking or suggesting.
Hygiene and Preparedness
🚿 Personal Cleanliness:
Always ensure you are clean before meeting a client. If possible, shower beforehand.
🧼 Client Cleanliness:
You can always politely suggest or require the client to shower before the service begins, or offer to shower together as part of the session.
🎒 Be Prepared:
Always have your own supply of fresh, unexpired condoms, toys and plenty of water-based lubricant. Never rely on the client to provide these.
Essential Safety Basics
Always use a condom:
For penetrative sex, use a new condom every single time. If in doubt change your condom. This is your best defence against sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
💧 Lubrication is Your Friend:
Use plenty of water-based lube with condoms to prevent breakage and make the experience comfortable for both of you.
✋ Hand Cleanliness:
If you are using your hands for any internal touching (like fingering), ensure your hands are very clean and your nails are short and smooth to prevent any cuts or discomfort. You might even consider wearing thin gloves for this.
🚨 Trust Your Gut:
If something feels off, or you get a bad feeling about a client or situation, it's okay to stop the session and leave. Your safety and comfort are always the top priority.
Go Slow, Build Connection
🐢 Start Gently:
Begin with gentle touches and build up slowly. This allows you both to gauge comfort and pleasure.
🧭 Follow Her Lead:
Pay attention to her reactions. If she seems to be enjoying something, you can continue or gently increase intensity. If she pulls away or tenses up, slow down or try something different.
⏳ Pacing:
Don't rush. A good experience is often about the journey, not just the destination. Pacing also gives you more time to communicate and adjust.
🚧 Respecting Boundaries (Yours & Hers)
🚫 Be Clear About Your Limits:
Before the session, make sure the client understands what services you offer and what you are not willing to do.
📏 Her Boundaries:
Be highly attuned to and respect any boundaries she sets, whether they are spoken or implied through her actions.
💼 Professionalism:
Remember this is a professional service. Maintain a clear line between the professional encounter and personal intimacy.
🧣 Aftercare is Part of the Service
🏃♀️ Don’t rush to leave. Offer a warm towel, cuddle if wanted, or a quick chat.
❓ Ask: “How was that for you?” or “Anything you’d like different next time?”
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