Client Information
⚠️Must knows:
Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Any reason, no excuse needed.
It is the clients responsibility to ensure sex worker(s) are aged over 18.
The law in most countries is condoms must be used for oral, anal and vaginal sex during sex work.
View Sex Work Laws Information
Proper preparation ensures a smooth and respectful engagement.
Understand Services & Expectations:
Clarify the services offered:
Even though a service may be listed on a sex workers advert, does not mean they offer each appointment.
"I am look for (insert service eg bottoming) services you offer?"
📍 Confirm location:
"Are you available for in-call or out-call today?"
Understand what they enjoy or don't offer:
"Are there specific things you enjoy or don't offer? Like kissing?"
Confirm session duration and rates:
"What's your rate for a 30 mins, 60 mins, Overnight. I have this kink (insert kink) ?"
Confirm mutual understanding:
"Just to be clear, [reiterate a specific service or boundary discussed]?"
Be honest and clear about what you like to do or explore. The sex worker isn't a mind reader.
Logistics & Safety:
For out-calls, discuss the environment
"I live with my flatmate, he will be in the other room"
" I'll meet you at reception"
Inquire about additional travel charges, if applicable.
Ask if anything is needed from you beforehand. Eg non latex condoms
Confirm preferred payment method.
HIV & STD/STI Prevention
1) Always use a condom for oral and anal sex.
2) If you are concerned that condomless sex may occur then consider PrEP.
💊 PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis):
This is a daily medicine taken before sex to protect against HIV. It works like a shield, making it harder for HIV to infect your body even if exposed. PrEP can often be accessed for free.
View information about STIs/STDs and Versus
Your Role in Consent:
✅ Be prepared to give clear, enthusiastic consent for any activity.
Client Hygiene:
Shower before arrival. You may be asked to shower again, which is a good sign of professionalism.
Cut your nails, they can lead to condom/anal tears.
Trim your pubes.
Financial Agreements:
Have the agreed-upon cash ready; avoid haggling after a rate is provided.
Have some extra cash on hand if you think you may extend your appointment.
Give the money to the sex worker when you first see them to avoid awkward silences and show respect.
Before Booking Information
During Your Booking
Engage thoughtfully and always prioritise respect and safety.
🔞Age Requirement:
Both you and the sex worker must be 18 years or older. You can be prosecuted for seeing an underage sex worker. The sex worker will not. If in doubt, see someone else.
Make payment:
Ensure payment is given to the sex worker when your appointment begins.
Ongoing Communication & Consent:
Talk about what feels good and listen to their feedback. Do not make assumptions.
🔄 Continually check in and look for enthusiastic responses.
Don't rush into action.
A short conversation can build chemistry.
Safe Practices:
Condom Use:
Use a condom every time for oral and penetrative sex. It protects you from the STIs/HIV and is a legal requirement in most countries.
Lubrication:
Use plenty of water-based lube.
No Surprises:
Always ask before trying anything new.
Respecting Boundaries:
❌ Never pressure your sex worker to use drugs or alcohol.
🚫 Never push beyond what's agreed upon.
💭 Fantasising /kinks
**If you have a fantasy, discuss it honestly. Some fantasies (e.g., "daddy son") can be concerning to some sex workers; respect their comfort.
🦠 STI/STDs:
If you’re concerned a sex worker may have an STI, it’s okay to ask respectful questions about protection and testing, but if you’re still unsure or uncomfortable, it’s best not to continue the session.
Learn about HIV & STIs/STDs here.
Questions to AVOID:
Avoid questions that are intrusive, disrespectful, or unprofessional:
Questions about their personal life (e.g., "What's your real name?""Do you have a boyfriend?", "Where did you go to school?"), unless they volunteer the information.
Judgmental or shaming questions about their profession.
Demands or assumptions that disregard their stated boundaries (e.g., "I really want to fuck you!", "Can you rim me?" when they don't offer that service).
Questions that imply illegal activities (e.g., "Do you know where to get drugs from?").
Haggling after an initial rate is provided or complaining that you have to pay for sex.
Asking to see their STI/STD results directly (this contains personal information). You can, however, ask when they last had an STI/STD check-up.
No Body Shaming:
Never fat-shame, or comment on the size of the sex worker's penis. Do not come with a measuring stick.
Professional Demeanour
Treat them as a professional.
If they ask you to stop, do so immediately.
Professional Boundaries:
Remember that you are paying for an interaction; chemistry isn't always guaranteed. There are usually plenty of sex workers to choose from.
After Your Booking Information
End the appointment respectfully.
Payment Confirmation:
Make sure you have paid the sex worker the agreed amount before you leave.
Respect Their Space:
Allow them to finish their work process and decompress.
Show Appreciation:
A simple "thank you" goes a long way. No need to love bomb them.
Consider leaving a tip. It's a good way to show the sex worker you had a good time.
If condomless sex occurs consider:
💊 PEP (Post-Exposure Prophylaxis): This is an emergency medicine to be taken right away after a potential HIV exposure (e.g., if a condom breaks or during sexual assault) to try and stop HIV from taking hold. It works best within 24 hours, and definitely within 72 hours of exposure. You should seek medical help immediately if you think you need PEP.
💊 Doxy-PEP (Doxycycline Post-Exposure Prophylaxis): This refers to taking a single dose of the antibiotic doxycycline after sex to prevent certain bacterial STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and syphilis. It's used as a post-exposure prevention method.
Providing Feedback (Constructively):
If you experience an issue, consider raising it respectfully. Your feedback can help them improve.
Unable to get an erection:
You must still pay the agreed amount. This happens sometimes; you can ask for oral sex, a massage, or just chat. If you didn't enjoy it, you don't have to see them again.
Lack of Agreed-Upon Activities:
If you want to see them again, mention wanting to explore the activity more. Otherwise, it's easiest not to see them again.
Rushed/Abbreviated Time:
If you want to see them again, mention "The session felt much shorter than the [agreed-upon duration]. Can we make sure we agree on the starting time?" (Shower time can be included in the session duration). You still must pay the agreed amount. Sometimes it's easiest not to see them again.
Unprofessional Demeanour:
Be considerate that sex workers can have bad days. If you want to see them again, mention specific behaviour (e.g., being on their phone, seeming disinterested)." Otherwise, it's easiest not to see them again.
🚧 Boundary Issues:
"I felt like my boundaries weren't fully respected when I [mention a specific instance]". Otherwise, it's easiest not to see them again.
Misrepresentation of Services:
If you want to see them again, mention "The impression I got from your profile/messages was [expectation], but the reality was quite different. I still want to you again but thought I would let you know".
Hygiene Concerns (handle delicately):
"There were some hygiene aspects that made me uncomfortable." "I'm bringing this up because I value clear communication and want to ensure that future interactions, either with you or other professionals, are more aligned with expectations. What can you say about this?"
Every sex worker will handle each situation differently. Always try be respectful and understand you are the one paying for an interaction, chemistry isn't always there. There are usually plenty of sex workers to choose from.
Special Requirements Information
To Be Frank emphasize that disabled individuals have an equal right to explore their sexuality.
When booking a sex worker, the most respectful approach is to communicate accessibility needs and specific desires clearly in advance so both parties can confidently provide or decline informed consent.
Informed consent in a commercial sexual encounter requires clear, uncoerced, and continuous communication regarding boundaries, services, and payments.
Capacity to Consent:
A differently abled/disabled client must have the cognitive capacity to understand the nature of the sexual act, its risks, and the commercial transaction.
Financial payment does not bypass the legal requirement for mutual, valid consent.Defining Boundaries: Both parties must explicitly agree on what services will be provided before the session begins.
Continuous Consent:
Consent is dynamic and can be withdrawn by either the client or the sex worker at any point during the session, regardless of prior agreement or payment.Safer Sex Practices: Consent is strictly conditional on health protocols. According to Citizens Advice Bureau guidelines, sex workers have an absolute right to insist on using protection like condoms. Violating this agreement (such as "stealthing") is a criminal offence.
Respect for the Sex Worker
Respecting a sex worker means recognising them as a professional professional providing a service, with full bodily autonomy and labor rights.
Right of Refusal:
A sex worker has the absolute right to refuse to see any client or perform any specific act for any reason.
Professional Boundaries:
Clients must respect the worker's time, financial agreements, booking rules, and physical environment.
Non-Violence:
Freedom from harassment, verbal abuse, or physical coercion is a fundamental legal right for sex workers.
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